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Friday, September 9, 2016
This Child Born From a Rape Turned Tragedy Into Something Beautiful, by Kathryne Taylor
On Dec. 22, 2008, I
was raped. Perhaps you can imagine how difficult it is to relive a rape, so I
will not go into the details. On the following day, I went to the doctor and
was given medicine for prevention of diseases and the morning after pill –
which I later learned is potentially an abortifacient. Six weeks later, I went to the doctor and
underwent blood testing, but I was not given a standard pregnancy test. However, a couple of days later, their
doctor’s office called to tell me I was pregnant!
BIO: Kathryne Taylor, a birthmother from rape, resides in Little Rock, Arkansas, and is a Save The 1.
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I was scared as hell,
and perplexed. See, I always tried and
wanted to get pregnant over the years by the guys I loved, but never
could. I thought I was infertile, so of
course, I was shocked and surprised.
Immediately, I
thought about an abortion when told I was six weeks along, but given the price
which I could not afford, I was crushed! Then I contemplated self-aborting and
the thought made me sick, so I decided on adoption. But I still had regrets of
carrying a baby conceived from the rape.
I called and met
with an adoption agency. They wanted me to sign papers right away, and they
also asked me about getting screened for Down Syndrome because I was
older. Whether the baby had Down
Syndrome made no difference to me, so this really troubled me and left me
uncomfortable with the agency.
I spoke to a
Facebook friend Ralph (God bless him) and he mentioned he had a sister near me
who could speak at her church about my situation. A few hours later, I received two phone calls
-- one of them was Karen, who is a blessing and an angel sent from above. She
told me she would be willing to either help me raise the child or she would
adopt the baby. I was stunned to hear
that she truly cared about me, whether or not she ultimately adopted the baby. I met up with her later that week. She bought me my favorite doughnuts (which I
never told her they were,) and we spoke at length.
Karen told me she
had two little boys who were adopted. We quickly bonded and she told me that
she loved me, and I could see how genuine she was!
Well, our first
doctor’s appointment was very emotional. She explained to the doctor my situation. Also,
my deepest regret is that I was abusing drugs. We found out I was 6-8 weeks
pregnant. We did the ultrasound and
heard the baby's heartbeat. When she
first heard the baby's heartbeat, I knew this was right and I loved her. I swore and promised Karen I would not do
drugs during this journey.
During my pregnancy,
we did everything together. I was carrying her baby and I was, as we jokingly
said, "The Incubator." I know that a lot of people would be offended
to read such a thing, but I just want to give you an idea of how well we bonded
-- that we were able to actually joke around like that. As we went through the journey, I saw the
baby grow inside her heart, as I was just caring a baby that God meant to be
given a chance at life.
We learned the sex
of the baby -- he was a boy! Karen was
so loving and still is a caring person who had seven children and had more love
to give to more babies. Thankfully, I was just carrying one. But she drove
nearly three hours each week to go through the precious journey with me. I saw the sonograms at check-ups, and I was
amazed.
See, if you are
given or blessed with a baby conceived by a rape, you can turn a tragedy into
something wonderful. Karen is such a beautiful woman with a loving soul and I
am so very lucky to have met and chose her. She even helped me with getting out
of my bad apartment and found me a new one with donations of furniture. She
understood I struggled with mental illness, so we took all precautions and
went to counseling. I was very happy that I met someone who loved me and the
baby unconditionally.
We learned that the
baby was due around September, 2009. I dropped my old friends as she blessed me
by introducing me to her family and friends, and God. It was a hard journey
that turned into something very precious. My ob/gyn was understanding while I battled
very bad morning sickness. Oh, and I forgot to mention I had Hepatitis C from a
previous rape, so this was a delicate matter.
We agreed on a C-section.
While I saw my doctor one day, he told us he wanted to induce labor. When we
got to the hospital, we were then told I was progressing rapidly and that I was
going to have a natural childbirth! Say whaaat? So as I was going through
contractions, I knew that we were going through this together. Late on
September 11, 2009 the baby was born as Karen and Bobby (her husband) went
through a very memorable birth.
Once I delivered, Bobby
went off with the baby but Karen stood by me until she was confident I was
okay. And then she finally met her son. I never saw him, but she was so very happy
and moved. He is a very loved and happy
little one!
Karen is still and
will always be a part of my life. But I learned that this child born from a
rape turned tragedy into something beautiful. I do not have nightmares about
the rape. I gave Karen and her family an eternal and precious gift! That was
the experience. I am very happy that he was not aborted. God made it this way.
It was all of us -- our journey. What I lost, I gave something special. Turning
a tragedy into a precious gift -- it was a beautiful journey. And I will always carry him in my heart. I
made Karen and her family into something more than special. It was a blessing.
If you have been
raped and find that you are pregnant, you too can turn something so horrible
into something incredible and special.
.BIO: Kathryne Taylor, a birthmother from rape, resides in Little Rock, Arkansas, and is a Save The 1.
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Your story is beautiful, may God continue to bless you.
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