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Tuesday, January 13, 2015
Speaking of Pro-Life Exceptions, My Son is Exceptionally Amazing!! by Robyn McLean
From the heart of a
mother, who grieves every time she hears of another rape exception in a piece
of legislation:
The Pain Capable Unborn Child Protection Act says to me that only babies conceived in a time of no hurt, no problems, are to be protected and can therefore live, but other innocent babies can be put to death for someone else’s crime. Even people who lose limbs in a collision can’t legally go and take away the limbs of the responsible party, but a pregnant mother can end the life of an innocent child who did her no harm. In the United States, there’s no death penalty for rapists – only for the innocent child. Any baby, and any child, is precious and worth something no matter what the parents’ thoughts are of them and no matter of the circumstance of their conception.
Does my precious son’s life become less human and of less value than all of those other babies who the Congressmen are defending if my mood, thought, pain, or choice of how I dealt with my awful circumstance changed? No one can put a price or value on my son, not even me -- because he is INVALUABLE. He is who God made him to be, and he is not comprised as a human by what other people have done. Even God doesn’t base our value on our actions. So why should we base any human’s value on other people’s actions?
I was extremely disappointed once again to hear that my son
and others like him were targeted for termination in the newly-introduced
Pain-Capable Unborn Child Protection Act.
Let me tell you why.
We live in a society which offers us so many choices,
anywhere from food, to cable, to what we’d like to become. We also live in a time where we battle on the
choice of human life vs. human death, and these decisions are often driven by
excuses. I certainly knew some of the selfish
“reasons” which would have “excused” a decision on my part to abort: I had a reputation I wanted to preserve as a
pastor’s daughter and as a Christian. I had been Class President, Class Treasurer,
Spiritual Development Chairman, and on the traveling worship team, and I was
afraid of losing the chance to be involved like that again as the person I was
known for being. I had no support in my
relationship “yet,” he was abusing me and I was trying to “fix” my relationship
first. I didn’t have the finances, I
wasn’t ready for a baby, I didn’t want people judging me, I didn’t want to be
less desirable, I was afraid of the possibly becoming a single mom, I wanted to
hide everything that was wrong and get on track without people knowing, I
didn’t want to be viewed differently and to lose the ones who loved me, and . .
. , I was pregnant by RAPE – a violent rape.
There's that word, right there:
RAPE. The one excuse we hear the
most.
Excuses, shame, and hurt should not alter our ethical,
moral, and discernable consciousness of the life of another human being --
especially an innocent baby.
Having an abortion as a way of “dealing” with a rape is not
healthy. It destroys a woman’s
conscience, increases a form of denial, and heightens guilt – whether
suppressed or acknowledged. An abortion
acts as a cover-up to the true problem.
When I look at my son, and I see his very essence, how he
interacts with people, how he makes them smile/laugh/feel, how he loves, and the
joy I experience in his presence -- all
those excuses and reasons are wiped away like a rainbow wipes away a storm.
Two years ago, when the Pain-Capable Unborn Child Protection
Act (20-week abortion ban) was introduced in Congress, it included all babies –
there was no discrimination, no one targeted as less worthy of protection at
the time it was introduced, and it was voted out of committee unanimously by
every Republican, though a rape exception was later added on the House Floor by
Eric Cantor, who since lost his Primary. This year, the same bill was introduced to
protect all babies -- except those conceived in rape. This makes no sense to me, as my son is
capable of feeling pain -- and love -- just as much as any other child. Is there any scientific reasoning behind
excluding a child like him from a Pain-Capable bill? Are there studies which these Congressmen can
point to which suggest that my son and other children conceived in rape are
incapable of feeling any pain? Or, does
it just not matter to them that children like my son are actually capable of
feeling pain? What ever happened to Equal Protection?
We live in a society fighting hard to take down discriminatory
statuses and labels, but when it comes to “convenience” – whether making an
abortion decision or making a legislative decision – many will slap on a label
which lessens an entire group of persons’ value in order to justify their own
decision-making process – a life or death decision. In the pro-life movement, some fight for
babies’ lives conceived in various circumstances, anywhere from gender to race
to health, but exclude innocent babies conceived in rape. As a mother of one of these children, this
breaks my heart! They are basing my
baby’s worth on a circumstance which had nothing to do with anything he did, but
on who his biological father was and what he did.The Pain Capable Unborn Child Protection Act says to me that only babies conceived in a time of no hurt, no problems, are to be protected and can therefore live, but other innocent babies can be put to death for someone else’s crime. Even people who lose limbs in a collision can’t legally go and take away the limbs of the responsible party, but a pregnant mother can end the life of an innocent child who did her no harm. In the United States, there’s no death penalty for rapists – only for the innocent child. Any baby, and any child, is precious and worth something no matter what the parents’ thoughts are of them and no matter of the circumstance of their conception.
Does my precious son’s life become less human and of less value than all of those other babies who the Congressmen are defending if my mood, thought, pain, or choice of how I dealt with my awful circumstance changed? No one can put a price or value on my son, not even me -- because he is INVALUABLE. He is who God made him to be, and he is not comprised as a human by what other people have done. Even God doesn’t base our value on our actions. So why should we base any human’s value on other people’s actions?
I think many of us can recall how we felt during times when we
were devalued or seen as less of a person for whatever background or reason. So, I hope you know that you are of value no
matter the reason of your conception, the labels put upon you, the family you
were raised in, being told you were “bad seed”, having a “disability”, having
been abused, etc.. You, my son, and I have
value and a reason to be protected just as much as those who society deems
exclusively worthy.
My son is capable of feeling deeply. In fact, many would say he specializes in his
feelings and insights of others. He
loves SO much and so intently, that he makes those whom society would ignore,
feel pretty special and important. When
he was in my womb, he was very sensitive to my touch. I would just barely touch my pregnant belly,
and he would respond with quite a bit of movement. Thank goodness all he knew was love and not
pain when he was in my womb. But he
deserved protection, without compromise.
I take joy in any progress we make in defending life, but it
doesn’t mean I will sit back and not say when something’s wrong. To stay silent is like not speaking up when a
building is perfectly formed, all but the leaking roof. Eventually, the one imperfection is going to
affect the rest of the building. Why
give up fighting for all babies’ lives? Not only that, but it seems odd to me that pro-life
Congressmen would put a price (or lack thereof) on my son’s life and who he is.
Even people in the pro-choice movement have said that they couldn’t
imagine me without my son and how much of a blessing he is in my life,
especially having seen how his love pours out and into
others. I don’t exaggerate when I say my son has insight into people, feelings,
and situations more than many human adults do, and I am not the only one to see
and say that. I don’t think this world
could afford to just dispose (physically or thought-wise) of a wonderful,
little human like him, and disregard the value of all he’s contributed to life
already before the age of four, just because of how he was conceived. You see, when you target unborn children like
him – when you refuse to protect them – our world loses children like my son.
BIO: Robyn McLean is an inspirational speaker and
writer on a wide spectrum, builds websites, and enjoys sharing coffee-time with people. She is a wife and mother and resides in
Colorado Springs, Colorado. Learn more
about her, and her personal story of having become pregnant by rape at www.RobynMcLean.net, and stay connected on Facebook: www.facebook.com/CoffeeWithRobynMcLean. Robyn is a blogger and
national pro-life speaker for SaveThe 1.
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