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Thursday, December 17, 2015
Michigan Senate Unanimously Passes the Rape Survivor Child Custody Act! by Rebecca Kiessling
Yesterday, the 38 Michigan Senators unanimously passed the Rape Survivor Child Custody Act
authorizing courts to terminate the parental rights of rapists upon a rape
conviction or upon a finding based upon “clear and convincing evidence” that
the parent committed “criminal sexual conduct” – the terminology used for rape
under Michigan law – and that the “conduct resulted in the child being
conceived.” SB 629 had 9 co-sponsors,
including one Democrat and one female Republican. So there were 7 male Republicans who,
contrary to the mainstream media, do care about rape victims who become
pregnant.
The bill’s
primary sponsor, Republican Senator Rick Jones, who spent 31 years in law
enforcement said,
“I want to ensure that victims of rape are
not faced with a custody battle from their rapist. . . . I've actually heard of horrible cases where
the rapist contacted the victim after they heard that a child had been
conceived and said: 'Get an abortion, and if you don't, I will be going for
custody. . . . I certainly cannot
imagine a rapist being able to continue to harass the victim, or have custody
of a child conceived in that act.”
Last week, I
testified before the Michigan Senate Judiciary Committee on this
legislation. My background as a Family
Law Attorney helped in explaining why the “clear and convincing evidence”
standard is appropriate. After all, it’s
the standard used in Michigan law for all other termination of parental rights
cases, and it’s the standard set by the U.S. Supreme Court in the case of Santosky v
Kramer.
I shared
stories of women from Save The 1 and
Hope After Rape Conception who were sued by their rapists for custody,
including Analyn
Megison from HARC, Angela
Grogg from HARC and her daughter Pyper, and Save The 1 pro-life speaker Liz
Carl – a birthmother who had to agree to drop criminal charges, just to be
able to consent to an adoption without the rapist getting custody. Additionally, I told the Senators of two
women who were conceived in rape, then raped by their own fathers while in the
rapists’ care – Save The 1 Vice-President Darlene Pawlik, and Rowena
Slusser.
Attorney Shauna Prewitt -- one of my co-founders of Hope After Conception (HARC), who was sued by her rapist for custody, also testified before the Michigan Senate Judiciary Committee by sharing her own compelling story, as well as the research she did for her Georgetown Law Journal article, Giving Birth to a "Rapist's Child": A Discussion and Analysis of the Limited Legal Protections Afforded to Women Who Become Mothers Through Rape.
Attorney Shauna Prewitt -- one of my co-founders of Hope After Conception (HARC), who was sued by her rapist for custody, also testified before the Michigan Senate Judiciary Committee by sharing her own compelling story, as well as the research she did for her Georgetown Law Journal article, Giving Birth to a "Rapist's Child": A Discussion and Analysis of the Limited Legal Protections Afforded to Women Who Become Mothers Through Rape.
By passing
this law, Michigan will be entitled to receive federal funds for programs which
help survivors of rape, in accordance with the federal Rape Survivor Child
Custody Act co-sponsored by Debbie Wasserman-Schultz, passed by Congress and
signed into law by President Obama last June – the only pro-life legislation
approved by the President. This law is
pro-life in effect because if pregnant rape victims know they’ll be protected
from the rapist, they’ll be more likely to choose life. It also provides opportunities for
legislators to hear from rape survivor mothers who deeply love their children,
and we see legislators for once referring to these children as “the rape victim’s
child” instead of the usual derogatory terminology of “the rapist’s child.” So they get to see this issue, the mothers
and their children in a whole new light.
Under
the federal act, Congress made the
following findings:
(1) Men who father children through rape should be
prohibited from visiting or having custody of those children.
(2) According to
several studies, it is estimated that there are between 25,000 and 32,000
rape-related pregnancies annually in the United States.
(3) A substantial number of women choose to raise
their child conceived through rape and, as a result, may face custody battles
with their rapists.
(4) According to one study, 32.3 percent of women
who were raped and became pregnant as a result of the rape kept their child.
(5) Another study found that, of the 73 percent of
women who became pregnant as a result of a rape and carried their pregnancies
to term, 64 percent raised their children.
(6) Rape is one of the most under-prosecuted serious
crimes, with estimates of criminal conviction occurring in less than 5 percent
of rapes.
(7) The clear and convincing evidence standard is
the most common standard for termination of parental rights among the 50
States, territories, and the District of Columbia.
(8) The Supreme Court established that the clear and
convincing evidence standard satisfies due process for allegations to terminate
or restrict parental rights in Santosky v. Kramer (455 U.S. 745 (1982)).
(9) Currently only 6 States have statutes allowing
rape survivors to petition for the termination of parental rights of the rapist
based on clear and convincing evidence that the child was conceived through
rape.
(10) A rapist pursuing parental or custody rights
forces the survivor to have continued interaction with the rapist, which can
have traumatic psychological effects on the survivor, making it more difficult
for her to recover.
(11) These traumatic effects on the mother can
severely negatively impact her ability to raise a healthy child.
(12) Rapists may use the threat of pursuing custody
or parental rights to coerce survivors into not prosecuting rape, or otherwise
harass, intimidate, or manipulate them.
The federal act then provided
additional grant money to states who pass this law: “The Attorney General shall make grants to
States that have in place a law that allows the mother of any child that was
conceived through rape to seek court-ordered termination of the parental rights
of her rapist with regard to that child, which the court shall grant upon clear
and convincing evidence of rape.” The
grant programs are the STOP Violence
Against Women Formula Grant.
We are
currently awaiting on some amendments to the companion bill which authorizes
Family Court judges to suspend custody and parenting time rights upon a showing
of “clear and convincing evidence,” which would then provide rape survivor
mothers with the opportunity to get a case filed for termination of parental
rights. When the bill was passed in the
House to suspend custody and parenting time, 101 Michigan State Representatives
voted in favor of the bill and 4 voted against it. One of those who voted against it, Marcia Hovey-Wright, served
as the Executive Director of Muskegon Area Planned Parenthood. She certainly showed her true colors in
caring more about rapists than rape victim mothers who had the audacity to
choose life for their children.
Many thanks
to Right to Life of Michigan for spearheading this effort in Michigan -- especially Ed Rivet and Genevieve Marnon out of the legislative office in Lansing. You set an example to every Right to Life organization as to how to make this a priority and how to get it done. You've never allowed a rape exception in Michigan, and now you've shown how to continue this protection after the children conceived in rape are born.
BIO: Rebecca Kiessling is a
wife, mother of 5, attorney and international pro-life speaker, conceived
in rape. She’s the founder and President of Save The 1, co-founder of Hope After Rape Conception, and co-founder of Embryo Defense.
Monday, November 30, 2015
Northern Ireland High Court Issues Death Penalty to Most Innocent But Discriminated Among Us, by Rebecca Kiessling
Today I grieve for the innocent preborn children in Northern
Ireland who will be put to death as a result of High
Court Justice Mark Horner’s ghastly ruling -- just because they may be conceived
in rape or because a doctor tags them with the diagnosis of “fatal foetal
abnormality.” Not only was I conceived
in rape, nearly aborted, while legally protected by law at the time, but I also
adopted a baby – Cassie – who was diagnosed with DiGeorge Syndrome and died in
our arms at 33 days old. Additionally, I’m
also an attorney who has litigated numerous high-profile cases involving these
issues, and I’m the founder and President of Save
The 1 – a pro-life organization with hundreds of members of who were conceived
in rape or incest, mothers who became pregnant by rape, and also hundreds who
were given a challenging pre-natal diagnosis.
Given my background and
expertise, I see it necessary to issue a thorough response to Justice Horner’s
opinion and I’m hoping this will offer a new perspective for many.
In his ruling which was issued today, Justice Horner
determined that Northern Ireland’s abortion ban (which permits abortion only to
save the life of the mother) violates Article 8 of the European Convention on
Human Rights, in the case of “fatal foetal abnormality” (FFA) throughout the
full term of the pregnancy, and in the case of sexual crimes -- rape and incest – only to the point of
viability when the child can survive outside of the womb.
Here’s what Article 8 actually says:
Article 8 – Right to respect for private and
family life
1. Everyone has the right to respect for his private and family
life, his home and his correspondence.
2. There shall be no interference by a public authority with the
exercise of this right except such as is in accordance with the law and is
necessary in a democratic society in the interests of national security, public
safety or the economic well-being of the country, for the prevention of
disorder or crime, for the protection of health or morals, or for the
protection of the rights and freedoms of others.
For those of us in the U.S. and/or who are very familiar with
Griswold v Connecticut, which led to the subsequent ruling in Roe v Wade, the
first item in Article 8 is the same kind of privacy right created by the U.S.
Supreme Court in Griswold and then used by the Roe Court to legalize abortion
for any reason in the United States. But
in the present case in Northern Ireland, the petitioner – The Northern Ireland
Human Rights Commission – was not seeking in this instance to establish a
general right to an abortion. The only
reason that they didn’t is because of the 2010 European Court on Human Rights
(ECHR) ruling of A, B and C v Ireland (Republic of Ireland) which specifically
found that there is NOT a straightforward right to an abortion under the
European Convention on Human Rights.
However, you can be assured that these cases are merely
groundwork for abortion rights activists, and that they will be returning to
establish a broader right, if they deem it to be necessary. The abortion lobby may not end up feeling the
need to do so if every woman seeking an abortion in Northern Ireland just has
to say she was raped. No guidelines were
established by Justice Horner, so really, this ruling currently stands to allow
abortion on demand for any reason, as long as a woman just says she was
raped. Norma McCorvey – Jane Roe from
Roe v Wade – was told by her abortion rights attorneys to say she was gang
raped, and this is absolutely a common tactic of the abortion industry. Just imagine putting a rapist to death merely
upon the assertion that a woman was raped!
Yet, that is what will happen here – only, it is the innocent child who
would be put to death and not the alleged perpetrator.
Given section 2 of Article 8, Justice Horner was forced to
consider the exceptions which allow the public authority to interfere with the
exercise of such privacy rights. He, of
course, had to refer to the ECHR ruling in A, B and C v Ireland which found no
right to an abortion, and in fact found that the interference was “in accordance with the law and necessary in a democratic
society for one of the legitimate aims specified in Article 8 of the Convention,”
that there was a wide measure of appreciation for the Republic of Ireland’s
protection of the rights of the unborn due to the “profound moral views of the
Irish people as to the nature of life,” and also because their Constitution
guarantees the right to life from the date of conception. Northern Ireland does not have such a
guaranteed right -- merely an abortion ban statute, which demonstrates the need
for nations to provide such a right within their constitutions. This should be a pressing goal worldwide!
Justice Horner went on to analyze the arguments put forth
by the Attorney General of Northern Ireland, which included the fact that
Northern Irish pregnant women are not forbidden to travel to England to secure
an abortion. I agree with his conclusion
here: “If it is morally wrong to abort a
foetus in Northern Ireland, it is just as wrong morally to abort the same
foetus in England. It does not protect morals to export the problem to
another jurisdiction and then turn a blind eye.” I can’t imagine an attorney general in
Michigan arguing such a point – that a woman can just go to NY or wherever to
obtain unrestricted access to an abortion.
You defend your own laws and don’t point to some other jurisdiction that
doesn’t respect life.
In his ruling, Justice Horner also questions whether the
abortion ban is intended to prevent abortions, or simply to forbid them from occurring
in Northern Ireland, and he points out the fact that no evidence was put forth
by either side to address this question.
I find this mind-boggling. There
must be some evidence to demonstrate how many women in Northern Ireland give birth
after rape, or give birth after being given a diagnosis of a fatal fetal
abnormality. A commission was done in
Northern Ireland this past year, and surely, surveys could have been
implemented within hospitals upon women giving birth to try to ascertain how
many are being born under these circumstances.
Even if you don’t have the percentages of how many are being saved by
the law, you could still at least point to how many are being born. Even if one life is saved, that child is
worthy of protection.
Justice Horner complained that wealthy women could go to
England for abortions, while it greatly affects the ability of impoverished
women to terminate their pregnancies “if they cannot obtain charitable
assistance” -- yes, he calls it “charitable
assistance.” Real charity means having
compassion on the child, as well as on the woman. Real charity is meeting her actual needs, and
not her desire to kill her own child.
How warped is a judge’s thinking when he believes abortion – killing innocent
preborn children -- is “charity?!” I can’t
help but think of how his reasoning would apply to all abortions, on demand for
any reason, which is what it seems he would be inclined to do if it weren’t for
the ruling in A, B and C v Ireland.
Looking at section 2 of Article 8, Justice Horner found
that the interference is “in accordance with the law,” since the abortion ban
is actually inscribed in the law, and he found that there is a “legitimate aim”
to protect pre-natal life, even in cases of “serious malformation of the foetus”
when it’s not diagnosed as fatal.
However, he found that “it is
illegitimate and disproportionate to place a prohibition on the abortion of
both a foetus doomed to die because it is incapable of an existence independent
of the mother’s womb and the viable foetus conceived as a result of sexual
crime.”
He then considered whether the interference is “necessary in a
democratic society” – whether there is a pressing social need. Again, he
addressed the question of whether the ban actually saves lives and concluded
that there was “not one iota of evidence” that
this criminal statute in these specific cases of FFA and sexual crimes has
resulted in the saving of any pre-natal life.
This is a great shame that he is summarily dismissing the lives of
innocent children – condemning them to death – based upon the fact that he does
not have raw numbers before him on how many lives would be saved.
Then he goes on to say that the abortion ban places a
disproportionate burden upon victims of sexual crimes:
“She
has to face all the dangers and problems, emotional or otherwise, of carrying a
foetus for which she bears no moral responsibility and is merely a receptacle
to carry the child of a rapist and/or a person who has committed incest, or
both.”
Justice Horner summarily insults every mother who became pregnant
by rape by calling her a “receptacle” and referring to HER child as “the child
of a rapist!” He’s also making numerous faulty
assumptions here – that the rape survivor will suffer problems, emotional or
otherwise, from carrying the child and giving birth, when studies actually
demonstrate that women are far worse off after the abortion as compared to
giving birth. Dr. David Reardon’s book Victims
and Victors: Speaking Out About Their Pregnancies, Abortions and Children
Resulting From Sexual Assault details this research. Having this research on hand, along with the
multitude of testimonies from rape victim mothers and their children, Justice
Horner’s arguments are found hollow.
In the case of fatal fetal abnormality, Justice Horner’s
arguments are again grossly distorted.
Finding that the abortion ban constitutes a “gross interference” with a
mother’s “personal autonomy” in the face of a fatal foetal abnormality
diagnosis from a doctor, here’s what he concluded:
“In the
case of an FFA there is no life to protect. When the foetus leaves the
womb, it cannot survive independently. It is doomed. There is
nothing to weigh in the balance. There is no human life to protect.
Furthermore, no evidence has been put before the Court that a substantial
section of Northern Ireland’s community, never mind a majority, requires a mother
to carry such a foetus to full term.”
Save The 1
has a plethora of stories of parents given an FFA diagnosis, and their children
are still living. If they are alive in
the womb at the time of diagnosis, then there is human life there to
protect! Even if they die upon or after
birth, their lives are still valuable, just as the lives of any person given a
lethal diagnosis. We don’t kill someone
early, just because they will die. In
fact, we ALL will die – it doesn’t matter though, because human life is
precious and it’s discriminatory to say which lives are valuable based upon some doctor's estimation of their life expectancy.
Earlier in his opinion, rejecting the argument for an exception
in cases of serious foetal malformation, Justice Horner had this to say:
“There is
also surely an illogicality in calling for no discrimination against those
children who are born suffering from disabilities such as Down’s Syndrome or
spina bifida on the basis that they should be entitled to enjoy a full life but
then permitting selective abortion so as to prevent those children with such
disabilities being born in the first place. This smacks of
eugenics. It is always difficult to draw the line and it comes as no
surprise that the phrase “serious malformation of the foetus” remains
undefined. It can mean different things to different people.”
He is right in this point, but he’s missing out on the fact
that “fatal foetal abnormality” likewise means different things to different
people, and all he has to do is look at all of the people born and living with
these diagnoses to see that FFA also smacks of eugenics.
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| Rebecca Kiessling with birthmother Joann |
And so does the systematic targeting and
devaluing of the innocent child conceived in rape. The message is that whether born or unborn,
these children are not as worthy of life, and the myth gets perpetuated that we
are all a great burden, “the child of a rapist” – as Justice Horner said –
instead of being seen as our mother’s child, and that we are somehow stained
with the rapist’s iniquity and a “horrible reminder of the rape,” when this is
not at all how our mothers see us.
The discrimination is lifelong, for children conceived in
rape and their rape survivor mothers who are not believed, because judges like
Horner think a true rape victim would have aborted and needed an abortion, but
also for those given a fatal foetal abnormality. Doctors often refuse to treat upon birth and
for months and years after, because their diagnoses become
self-perpetuating. They don’t want these
children to live because many medical professionals see them as a drain on the
system.
Lastly, Justice Horner’s repeated statements alluding to
public opinion is the most disturbing. The
European Convention on Human Rights, and the U.S. Bill of Rights, were put into
place to protect the weakest among us – no matter what the majority of public
opinion is. Human Rights are all about
protecting the most vulnerable, the most despised, devalued and discriminated within society. In modern society, and
especially today in Northern Ireland, this would be the child conceived in
rape, and the child marked with a fatal foetal abnormality diagnosis. One is given the death penalty for the crimes
of another, and the other child is issued a death warrant by a doctor. Both should be protected.
BIO: Rebecca Kiessling is a wife, mother of 5, attorney and
international pro-life speaker, conceived in rape. She’s the founder and
President of Save The 1, co-founder of Hope After Rape
Conception, Executive Committee - Board Member of Personhood Alliance, and co-founder of
Embryo Defense.
Sunday, November 1, 2015
The Legend of Supermom, by Rebecca Kiessling
The best memories I have growing up were when my adoptive
father would tell me and my brother nighttime stories with whole casts of characters
he created. These figures were iconic – always
with a central figure who was my dad’s alter ego – and these characters, with
unique voices and all, were almost like members of our family. My favorite series of stories were about the
superhero Man Wa Man – my dad’s secret identity, also known just as Man Wa, or
The Great Wazini. As an adult, he shared
with me that Wa came from our last name, Wasser. My dad would tell us of his nightly, outrageously
funny escapades of donning his cape and flying out his bedroom window to fight
the insanely ridiculous villains, but how ultimately, he would always get the
bad guy and hand him off to the police to be put in jail. This superhero became such a part of my
childhood that, at times, my father would not respond to my requests until I
addressed him as Man Wa – something which I found less amusing as a teenager.
Fast-forward decades later to my own children – after taking
my children to see the movie The Incredibles – about an entire superhero family,
I decided to tell them about Man Wa Man, and how, actually, Mommy has a cape
too. . . . My oldest son Caleb, who was
4 years old at the time, adamantly demanded: “Stop it Mom. You’re just trying to trick us – like those
parents who trick their children about Santa Claus.” Oh great!
I was trying to preserve their present and future faith in God by not
intermingling the Holy Days with Santa and the Easter Bunny, but now, this was
spoiling my chance to have fun in passing on my favorite childhood tradition! (I was adopted into a Jewish family, so there
were no memories of Santa and the Easter Bunny for me.) I pleaded with my son, “Aw, come on, please just
let me tell you a story – just for fun.”
“No Mom, I’m not going to let you trick us!” Exasperated, I gave up.
But then, the following year, the movie “Sky High” was being
released – another superhero family movie.
Perhaps this would be my opportunity again. So I went online with my son Caleb who was 5
at this time, to read the movie review on Plugged In. I began to read to him about this superhero
family in which the dad has super-strength, and the mom has a cape and can fly,
then turning my head, I smiled at my son and slowly and coyly said, “Just like
Mommy . . . .” He put his hands on his
hips, rolled his eyes at me and condescendingly retorted, “Mom, you are NOT a
superhero,” to which I replied with a hope-filled voice, “But, I wanna be.” Caleb stopped for a moment, thought about it,
then said the most remarkable thing to me, “Well, YOU save babies.”
WOW!!! “Oh my goodness,”
I exclaimed, “so you think I’m a real
superhero?! Come here, give me a hug
Caleb. That was the best thing you could
have ever said to me!” I’m a pro-life
speaker and attorney. For many years I
homeschooled my children, taking them across the U.S. and even overseas with me. I speak sharing my own controversial life story, and telling people about
the value of all human life. So my son
has grown up knowing exactly what I do.
It meant the world to me to hear my son say this simple, but profound
statement to me.
So we all went to see a matinee of Sky High that day, and as
I was putting the children to bed that night, they asked me to tell them a
story about Supermom -- my dream come true! I began the story just as my dad always had – putting
the children to sleep, getting the call for help, putting on my cape, and
flying out the window . . . . But from
that point on, my 3 oldest children collaborated in finishing the adventure and
telling the crazy escapades. They had my
youngest daughter – 4 months old at the time – as Superbaby, also with a cape
and hanging onto Mommy’s cape, giggling and laughing just as she always does,
as she flew through the air with me. Then
my children had me spot “a bad guy abortion doctor,” and the story went on with
Superbaby slinging her dirty diaper and all the other nonsense which perhaps you
can imagine coming from 3 little children ranging in age from 2 to 5 years old.
We had so much fun over the next two months telling Supermom
stories, so when Halloween costumes began to appear in the stores, I decided to
purchase a Supergirl costume -- ironing on white-trimmed yellow letters “M-O-M”
just underneath the big Super “S” emblem. I prepared my children for what was to come,
and they all eagerly lined up, sitting outside of my bedroom door as I donned
my costume and cape. “Okay, are you kids
all ready to see Supermom?,” I asked from the other side of the door, with a
quick response of children’s cheers. As
I opened my bedroom door, my children’s jaws dropped and they gasped in awe. It was such a priceless moment! Then they jumped up and hugged me, demanding another
Supermom story to immediately be told.
Having so many young children close in age (eventually 5
within 7 years,) people would regularly say things to us when we were out in
public, like, “Are those all yours?,” or, “You’ve got your hands full!” Very few people have more than two or three
children nowadays, so I know our family is unique, but my husband and I would see
this as an opportunity to obliterate the notion that five is too many. My husband’s response to "You've got your hands full," has been to hold up one
hand, spreading his fingers, pointing at them and explaining, “No, just one.”
Then he’d hold up his other hand and say, “There’s still room for FIVE more
over here!” People would never know what
to say then!
My response has been to take pride in being a mother of 5 and
say, “Yeah, well, I’m Supermom!” I’d
been saying this for quite some time over that last year or so, and my children
would not have anything else to add. But
after the Supermom stories and the Supermom costume came to be, the next time I
told a store cashier, “Yeah well, I’m Supermom!,” my son Caleb suddenly turned
to the clerk and with much enthusiasm exclaimed, “It’s TRUE – she has a CAPE!”
And this is how the legend of Supermom came to be in the
Kiessling household. So here's to all of the Supermoms, Superdads and all of the surrogates who save babies' lives through pro-life activism -- my children think you are superheroes, and so do I!
BIO: Rebecca
Kiessling is a wife, mother of 5, attorney and international pro-life
speaker. She’s the founder and President
of Save The 1, co-founder of Hope After Rape Conception,
and co-founder of Embryo Defense. (Photo taken recently -- 10 years after acquiring the Supermom suit.)
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