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Showing posts with label victim of rape. Show all posts
Showing posts with label victim of rape. Show all posts
Thursday, January 19, 2017
To This Day, I Am the Mother of a Blessing - My Child Conceived in Rape, by Elizabeth Díaz Navarro from Costa Rica
My name is Elizabeth and I live in Costa
Rica. While attending university I was
raped and I
got pregnant with a beautiful girl who, at the time, I wanted to
abort. Of course, as a young person who
took care of herself -- a good girl -- I felt I did not deserve to be a single
mom. No, I had to abort! However, one day while I was crying about my
situation, my little girl (although at that moment I did not know if my baby
would be a male or female) began to move. I decided to receive therapy and I told myself,
"Ok, I will place this baby for adoption -- I do not have to be burdened
with a kid that I did not order."Months passed and I learned my baby is a girl. It was strange because I hated and loved her at the same time. I was confused: how could I love something that came from such a bad act? The days passed and my princess was born. Since I was a little girl, I would say: "When I have a daughter, her name will be Gaudy."
When I went to see her in the hospital nursery, this little one who I had convinced myself deserved nothing from me, smiled at me and looked upon me with loving eyes. Yes, that baby stole my heart. Thanks to my psychologist and all those who helped me, I am happy, I survived, and I thank God because I have the best gift that life could give me -- my daughter. She is my everything, my little princess.
The act of rape is so bad, but it cannot be healed with yet another act that is equally painful and violating. Abortion will never help a rape victim overcome the trauma and will only make the situation worse.
The same day that those men violated me,
they also raped and impregnated my friend Karol, but she decided to abort. At first, she thought that everything would be
fine. However, one day the two of us
were in a park in San Jose. It was
December and my baby was then 10 months old.
When we saw each other, we cried a lot. She saw my daughter and began describing to me
what the face of hers would have looked like. She shared with me that she could not stop
feeling like a killer. She knew that her
little girl was not to blame but she understood this truth too late. Everyone told her to abort “that bastard son
of a horror.” She had no one to help her
with kind words of encouragement. She
said to me: "Eli, how I envy you because I will never know how she could’ve
been . . . .”
Months later, I went to visit Karol, but to my horror, I found that she had committed suicide. Her mother told me that she was never the same and that the abortion overwhelmed her. I remember my friend as a beautiful and special girl.
We don’t need "butchers" calling themselves doctors. What a victim of rape needs is psychological and emotional support and the aid of professionals -- not the words of people who aggravate the problem. I wish all women had the opportunity to be supported to defend the lives of those who cannot defend themselves. Those children, even from rape, are not to blame!
I do not want to judge. I know how horrible rape is, but aborting will never help. In my
Note:
Elizabeth Diaz Navarro originally wrote her story in Spanish for our Save the 1 Spanish division, Salvar El 1, and a member of our Spanish team translated.
Wednesday, December 7, 2016
I, Like Any Other Person, Have the Same Rights in This Life! by Bethania Herrera, Ecuador
Hi everyone, my name is Bethany, from Ecuador, and I'm 19 years old.
When I was about 8-10 years old I learned that I was conceived in rape. At that tender age, I did not understand what that meant, but as I grew up, my mother told me more about her experience.
At age 23, she worked in my biological father's company. One day, my biological father drugged her and raped her. Months later, she realized she was pregnant. She felt dirty and fell into depression to the extent that she wanted to commit suicide.
My mother told me she never thought about abortion because she knew that the rape and her depression were not my fault.
To make matters worse for her, when my grandmother found out she was pregnant, she didn't even let my mother explain what had happened to her, and my grandmother kicked her pregnant daughter out of the house.
Months later, my mother came back to her home and they decided to take her in again. As you can see, she had very sad and difficult times; however, my mother never gave up.
I was born and made her life happier. She says that I was, from that moment on, her strength -- her reason for living. My mother fought to raise me alone, despite the criticism and pain. She was a warrior!
Ten years after my birth, she realized that hating her aggressor only damaged her heart and decided to forgive my biological father. I know my father and sometimes I talk to him. Because of my mother, I hold no grudge against him, and to this day, neither does my mother.
Being conceived in rape, I have not felt less of a person. Like any other person, I have the same rights in this life! I thank my mother for giving me the opportunity to live. Thanks Mom for the decision to have me! I am here, enjoying life, experiencing new things, achieving goals and becoming a professional.
It can be hard to be the victim of rape, but always keep in mind that abortion will never solve the rape. On the contrary, it will worsen your emotional state. Think of that little innocent being who is not only genetically part of the rapist, but part of you too. By killing that little one, you kill generations to come. . . .
We all have the same right: The right to life!
BIO: Bethania Herrera, conceived in rape, is from Ecuador and is a pro-life blogger for Save The 1,and our Spanish division Salvar El 1. This was translated from Spanish and originally posted to our Spanish blog: http://salvarel1.blogspot.com/2016/12/cuando-tenia-diez-anos-me-entere-que.html
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