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Friday, August 10, 2018
I'm an Adopted Daughter Born of Rape and I Celebrate My Life! by Maria de la Paz Rodríguez Coronel Dudignac, Argentina
Let’s go back to the 1970's. A young, newly married couple from Buenos Aires dreamed of starting a family. But instead, they suffered several failed attempts to get pregnant. Their desire increased
as the months and years passed. Treatments, prayers, . . . nothing seemed to work, until they decided to
start the adoption process.
They endured tough
requirements, bureaucratic procedures and in-depth investigations in order to be classified as good candidates. Finally, they managed to match
all the required parameters to be adoptive parents.
However, as this couple began preparations to adopt, there was a tragedy transpiring. It was 1978 in the province
of Chaco. A teenager suffered a sexual attack in which she became pregnant by her
rapist. Alone, helpless, humiliated and without
any hope, she went to a house -- a hospice as we say. She lived through the pregnancy with
great courage. She had run away from home -- possibly because her family abandoned her, or possibly to avoid being shamed by others.
She had her baby daughter with
a normal weight of just under 8 lbs. Afterward, she wandered everywhere with the baby
in her arms, until she finally decided to place her for adoption. She went to what we call a cradle
house and with great sadness and hope, handed her baby over with the clothes she was
wearing.
The staff of the cradle
house gave the baby girl love and affection. No more was heard of that young teenager. . . .
The baby lived among
children, nurses and caregivers who struggled every day to keep the house decent and clean, given that the economic situation was unsustainable.
One day, that couple from Buenos Aires received the call of God -- the happiest news of their lives: "There is a baby who was placed for adoption. Can you travel as soon as possible to the Province of Chaco?”
The future parents
were very excited. They cried and hugged for half an hour, thanking God for their
prayers being answered.
Upon arriving in the
province of Chaco, they went to the cradle house. It was fresh. When they got there,
they were received by many children with the hope of leaving that hospice with
their adoptive family. Children were running everywhere. The maintenance staff
was pleading for money for the arrangements of the property.
Then, the young future
adoptive father went to the mall and bought them a new kitchen as a donation. When he returned, he
went to one of the many cradles where a baby girl in diapers rested, thin and
abandoned.
Without knowing which crib her awaiting baby was in, the wife had moved forward past the row of cribs with great
anxiety. As she approached crib number 22, the
baby girl opened her huge eyes and cried. With compassion in her heart, the young woman picked her up,
cradled her with a lot of love in her arms and the baby stopped crying; the
young mother did not release her anymore.
That mother was Luz
María and that baby was ME.
The caretakers and
nurses of the home asked my mother how she knew this was the baby she was about
to adopt and, merrily, she answered: "mother's intuition."
Then all the
procedures corresponding to the birth certificate in the Civil Registry were
carried out. They named me Maria
de la Paz, consecrating me to the Virgin Queen of Peace. We returned happily to
Buenos Aires. There my great-grandmother, grandparents, uncles and cousins
awaited us. They had a party and baptized me.
When I was two years
old, I had curiously asked my mother if I had been in her tummy, and she said no. I left it at that and we followed
life normally. I went to kindergarten, I played with my cousins and friends, and I received my First Communion and Confirmation. I had a very happy childhood, enjoying many birthday parties and Christmas.
When I began adolescence, I started to wonder everything, including my origin. There was a lot of
secrecy about my pre-adoption history. I was missing 8 months of my life which were empty -- I did not know anything about that time.
When finishing secondary education, I began to work. I lived the normal life of a young girl going out to
the world, to society. But I never stopped thinking about those 8 empty months
of my life. Nobody told me anything.
Years passed, I got
married and had two daughters. I completed several specialization
courses for my career. I am a therapeutic caregiver,
integrative teacher, geriatric assistant, community play director. I am also a
catechist in the Diocese of San Miguel Arcángel in Buenos Aires.
It wasn't until 2007 when an aunt told me that my birthmother had been raped and, as a result of that
attack, I was born. I said nothing about this cruel truth. I went on with my life, until one day, I
could not take so much pain anymore.
I felt guilty about being born and decided
to compensate my biological mother with my life. I offered my whole being to
God and after a terrible period of depression, I took pills to relieve myself of the pain. I was hospitalized for several days as a result.
My parents and
family suffered a lot from this. They were angry with me, as they did not understand the
situation -- a typical reaction, I think.
I managed to recover, thanks to my prayer group, my daughters and family, my in-laws and my friends. With the time
going by, I accepted my reality.
I had two mothers -- one
who courageously gave me life and another who gave me her life until her last
breath.
It was the summer of 2015 as I was riding a bike through Bella Vista when I saw a sign with the image
of an 8-week-old baby asking to be born. I did not understand the claim. Then I
called the number that appeared and contacted those who organized that
campaign "El Bebito" (the little baby).
I joined their Facebook
campaign and started a wonderful connection with Mariana Rodríguez Varela through her sister
Helena. They provided me with material to publish and I became a pro-life
warrior!
At that time, I knew a
teenager who became pregnant, but she did not want that unborn baby. I had enough
information to teach that girl the truth that what she had in her tummy was not a bunch
of cells, but a baby. After long days of dialogue and contention, she
decided to continue with the pregnancy! That experience made me reflect and, immediately,
I applied it to my own life.
I still was unable to tell
publicly that I was an unwanted baby conceived during a rape . . . , until things became very
difficult in my country, The Republic of Argentina, with the bill of
"voluntary interruption of pregnancy" which would have legalized abortion for any reason through 14 weeks and up until birth in cases of rape.
One day commenting on
Facebook in favor of life, I saw someone suggest that "in cases of rape" it would be
good for the rape victim to decide "with her body" by getting rid of
the fetus she carries in her womb. Of course, I did not
agree with that statement. Then I commented freely -- for the first time ever. Their ignorance and cruelty liberated me!
But then I received
frightening messages from a relative -- a close cousin -- who tried to make me feel guilty
for being born, saying that all the abandoned children should have been aborted, that
the adopted ones should not have existed. Privately she told me that I was guilty of what had happened to my biological mother and that I should not have existed. As perhaps you can imagine, I felt very badly reading all of these things from a family member.
That afternoon I fainted. I could not get out of bed, and I cried all the time. I had the signs of that
depression again. Then I sent a message on WhatsApp to Mariana Rodríguez Varela
crying and renouncing my participation in the "El Bebito" campaign. I felt very badly for
being born thanks to that insulting cousin.
Immediately, Mariana
asked me: "Are you adopted?" And I answered:
"Yes." It was at that moment
that Mariana sustained me with a lot of love, and told me that I was a
beautiful story of love.
From that moment, I
celebrated my life. I resurrected. I had lived years of pain, but now I received the Grace of God through the
respect, kindness and affection of Mariana.
I felt very proud of
my adoptive parents (or parents of the heart as we say), and I proudly went out into the streets again with the banner of
"ElBebito."
It was during an afternoon coffee break when I saw the speech of a young woman named Karina Estrella Etchepare in the Honorable Chamber of Deputies of the
Congress of the Argentine Nation. Her words left me speechless as she shared her story of having been conceived in rape and placed for adoption.
Then, I said to
myself: "I am also an adopted daughter who was born in rape" -- the
world has to know my humble history.
I started posting on
all the networks that I am happily adopted and the result of a violation. I felt
that I should honor my birthmother because of how brave she was to give
me up for adoption, choosing life despite the pain she suffered. Maybe it
was not easy for her to surrender me in that cradle house, but that's what she could do, giving me the opportunity to live.
Karina Estrella Etchpare and I became friends, along with many others from Salvar El 1 who were conceived in rape or became pregnant by rape. These are my sisters!
When they
use the pretext of aborting the baby in cases of rape, I do not agree that the
baby is condemned to death since she is an innocent being. The
father should be condemned for the crime he committed -- not the baby.
Who dares to tell me
that my life is worth less than that of anyone who was born during an act of
love? I am not an
abomination of nature for having been an unwanted baby! I can love and be loved. I am irrefutable proof
that my life and my daughters lives are the result of God's triumph on earth.
With my humble story,
I want to leave the following legacy to my daughters, to all of the daughters of Argentina, and to all the daughters of the world: Abortion is not the
solution, abortion doesn’t stop a woman from being a mother because, since
the moment of conception, the woman will always be a mother. The "choice" made is whether to be Mother to a living child or a dead child.
Sadly, here in Argentina, it has been legal since the 1920's to abort a child conceived in rape through 14 weeks. But my birthmother, with a lot of pain, continued valiantly with her pregnancy giving me the possibility of life. That's why I say yes
to life, without exception!
Thanks to the love of
my whole family, great-grandmother, grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins (the good ones), instead of
being an "unwanted baby" I became an "expected baby."
Biography: Maria Paz Rodríguez Coronel Dudignac lives in Buenos Aires, Argentina. She is the mother of two girls, a therapist, and a blogger, pro-life speaker and Facebook contributor for Salvar El 1 -- the Spanish division of Save the 1.Monday, August 6, 2018
Is My Life Worth Less Than One Conceived In Love? by Karina Estrella Etchepare, Argentina
I am a person like
anyone else. I am a lawyer, a National Public Accountant
and an adult education teacher in a humble neighborhood of Buenos Aires, but I have a different story. My right to life was
questioned, and the continuation of my life depended on the strength and tenacity of a 14-year-old girl in order that
I may now tell you my story. Today in Argentina this challenging of lives is being repeated
again. This time, for all unborn children through 14 weeks, and for children conceived in rape right up until birth.
People like me today
are considered disposable. What was my fault so that my right to life is
questioned? I did not steal, I did not kill and yet I was about to be killed
in utero just for having been gestated out
of the rape of a poor girl.
My biological mother,
Teresa delMilagro, lived in the Itatí de Bernal emergency village in the
Province of Buenos Aires, Argentina in a context of absolute poverty, violence
and alcoholism. She was raped and abused by her stepfather and from that
terrible situation she became pregnant with me at 14 years old.
My biological
grandmother, complicit in this situation, did the impossible for my birthmother to abort me. I believe that if RU486 -- the abortion pill -- had existed at the time, today I am not here
telling this story. However, despite my maternal grandmother's actions, pregnancy continued and one day, my biological
grandmother offered me -- before I had yet been born -- to a woman in the neighborhood who always helped the most needy. For my biological grandmother, I
was an abomination, but not for my birthmother. For her, I was the only
person in the world whom she really loved.
That is how 22 days
after I was born I was handed over to that neighbor, who was my adoptive mother, or as we say, "heart mom," Alicia. She lived with her husband Franklin and 21-year-old son Fran. I arrived at my new home in a deplorable state with smoky, dirty
clothing, hunger and third degree burns on my genitals.
My arrival in the
neighborhood was a revolution. That day, all the neighbors joined in looking for
clothes, milk and a cradle. My new mom immediately bathed me and I, who still did not
even open my eyes, sighed with relief, as I must have felt the sense that I'd been saved.
The next day my heart
mom started the adoption proceedings and, as required, a corresponding police report.
If I had to describe
the relationship with my adoptive parents, the two words that would summarize
our life together today would be infinite love. When I arrived into their lives,
my mother was 54 years old and my father was 49. Even though they were older, they
loved me deeply and shaped me into the woman I am today, with both defects and virtues, but always with the same values, impressing upon me the importance of helping the most
defenseless and a profound respect for life.
The last time my heart
mom saw my biological mother was when I was eight months old. My birthmother came to know about me, but she was warned of the restraining order that
the adoption judge had imposed. Teresa delMilagro, embarrassed by the
situation, took a baby cap from my mother, caressed it gently and gave it back to
her. My heart mom always waited for her to return, but Teresa delMilagro never came back.
When I was eight years
old, I learned my origin and it was hard to know, but it was always clear to me
that despite the pain, I wanted to help the weakest. There were years of
internal healing and I am grateful to have gone through all that, because I know
now that the only way to heal the pain is with love, understanding and
forgiveness.
At age 28, with my
original birth certificate in hand, I decided to look for Teresa del Milagro. I needed
to close my story but above all, I wanted to tell her, "THANK YOU FOR ALLOWING ME TO LIVE
FULLY."
Disappointed, I found
out through a governmental search page of people, that my birthmother had
died at age of 25, when I was just 11 years old.
However, I found the
family that my birthmother had formed. In spite of everything, her continuous great act
of love for me made her betting for life again. I talked to them and learned that my biological mother was sadly returned to her abuser, that he attempted to traffic her sexually to other men, and, as she refused, she was admitted to a school until she was
18 years old.
I learned that she had looked for me intensely, but my biological
grandmother denied her any information and then, without hope, Teresa committed
suicide. I'm sure it was an impulse, as her family had said she was not like that, but that she was a fighter. In a moment of weakness, she took her own life. It hurts me to know that the lack of protection and abandonment of the State killed her. I know that if we'd met, I would have been a part of her healing.
My adoptive parents did not change my original names, the names which Teresa delMilagro had given me. I have a half-brother and a half-sister who she had with her partner. The surprise was that my sister is also called Karina, like me. I knew this was a sign from my birthmother that she had never forgotten me.
Although I could not meet her, I
appreciate the strong convictions she had when she was so young. According to her partner and other children, she never saw
me as a trauma from rape or an aberration, but it was always the love of a mother for all of her children, to the point that she did not differentiate which of her
children was gestated out of love or rape.
Teresa delMilagro did,
as her name says, achieve a miracle in me because she allowed me to live and she saved
me by placing me for adoption, by changing my destiny. I would not be what I am if
I had not been given to my adoptive family, the best I had.
Today my parents are
gone but their love for my life transcended theirs -- the proof of which are my sons, Manuel and Martín. They are here today because my three saviors said Yes to my
life! And now, I fight to say Yes for others who are just as deserving of love and life.
Tuesday, May 8, 2018
was not just any day in my life, but it was the day I shouted to the four
winds: ALL LIFE IS GOOD! in the Chamber of Deputies of the Nation. All the
pieces of my puzzle called "Life" were perfectly embedded. My sad
origin and my experiences over the years would serve to defend the lives of the
purest beings in the world -- unborn children, those who have no voice and cannot
defend themselves. I related my story to the legislators, then showed them the purpose of it.
"My story comes to an
end, but not before asking you: Could you dare to tell
me that your life is worth more than mine because I am the result of a rape? I hope you are clear
that the mother and child are victims of the rapist and that is why you have to
protect them. No one has the right to say that one life is worth less than the
other, much less that of the fruit of a rape, because that baby did NOT CHOOSE
HOW TO BE GESTATED. If the rapist, with luck, is sentenced to 15 years in
prison, why is the innocent baby sentenced to death? Without life there is
no freedom. Value life and defend the unprotected, sow love, sow peace, sow
life, honor life!"
I will not stop
fighting to prevent abortion from being legalized in my country. I will not stop
because I have a debt to life. Teresa fought for me and gave me an opportunity to live, and now it's my turn
to fight back to ensure that every human being is guaranteed his or her first and most
precious of rights: the right to live.
For more stories from Argentina, please read:
10 Argentine Women Conceived in Rape and Mothers From Rape Speak Up! by Rebecca Kiessling
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| Maria de la Paz Rodriguez Coronel Dudignac and Karina Estrella Etchpare, both from Argentina, both conceived in rape and pro-life speakers and bloggers for Salvar El 1. |
Friday, August 3, 2018
10 Argentine Women Conceived in Rape and Mothers From Rape Speak Up! by Rebecca Kiessling
My name is Rebecca Kiessling, I am a wife, a mother of five children -- two of them adopted, and I am the president of SaveThe1 (Salvar El 1 in Spanish) an international pro-life organization which specializes in defending all of the so-called "hard cases" through sharing our personal stories.
A good number of members are from Argentina, and they are outraged to see the proposed law to
expand abortion to be legal in all cases up to 14 weeks, and in cases of rape from 14 weeks to up until birth. It was bad enough when the law first began targeting the innocent child conceived in rape.
For those like us who have been conceived in a rape, it is hard to know that currently the "exceptions" are allowed through 14 weeks when a pregnant woman merely says she was raped. And for those told that their child would be disabled, it's horrifying to know that if a doctor diagnoses that the baby has malformations "incompatible with life" or if it affirms that the mother is in danger of dying, then the child can be killed up to 14 weeks. These three allegations may or may not be true, but all three are discriminating against the most vulnerable people in society who are the ones who would require more effective protection.
On August 8th, the Argentine Senate will vote on whether abortion will be legal in any case and up to birth for the so-called "exceptions." If approved, Argentina would be the fifth Latin American country to decriminalize abortion without these restrictions, after Cuba, Uruguay, Guyana, Chile and some parts of Mexico -- and the killing of unborn children will be rampant.
Save The 1 is an organization of over 600 people who were conceived in a rape like me, mothers who conceived a child after being raped and who are raising their children, mothers who after giving birth placed the child for adoption and others, who regret aborting. In addition, we have hundreds of mothers who were advised to abort because of a poor pre-natal diagnosis. We value life and we hope that the Argentine Senate will protect life without discrimination.
Our Facebook page in Spanish, Salvar El 1, now has almost 68,000 followers. Since the groundbreaking news that Argentina seeks to legalize abortion, we have received a flood of stories from Argentina from those who want to share their testimonies with us. They have been encouraged to come forward by reading my story and those of many others in our organization. Many voices are rising in Argentina, but, most importantly, the voices of the most innocent are going to be heard and the voice will be raised in defense of those Argentine unborn children who still can not raise it and who are at risk.
Like me, Karina Estrella Etchepare (whom I nicknamed "Argentine Rebecca") was conceived in rape, placed for adoption, is a family law attorney, and is now a strong voice speaking out in Argentina. Her mother was raped by her own stepfather at age 14. Karina testified recently in Congress when the new bill was up for a hearing. She asked Congress: "Does anyone dare to tell me that their life is worth more than mine because I am the result of a violation?" She explained to them that "the mother and child are both victims of the rapist. For that reason, it is necessary to protect them both. No one has the right to say that one life is worth less than the other, much less that of the fruit of a rape, because that baby does not know how she was conceived. If the rapist, with luck, is sentenced to 15 years in prison, why is the innocent baby sentenced to death?"
Margarita Juncos, from Argentina, was also conceived in rape. Her mother was 17 years old when she was raped and gave birth to her daughter alone at a women's help center. Sadly, she passed away after two months as the result of a heart problem, and Margarita was raised by her maternal grandfather. As an adult, wife and mother, she learned the truth of her conception and birth. She values the gift of life that her mother gave her in the worst circumstances and has even forgiven her biological father.
Adriana Shinki, from Argentina, was conceived in a rape when her mother was only 11 years old. Unable to take care of her, her mother left Adriana in an orphanage where she knew they were going to raise her and care for her. After many years, she had the good fortune to meet her mother and recounted in the blog of Save the 1: "How can I be angry with the woman who gave me life?".
From the feelings of someone who was conceived in violence, but raised in love, Adriana advises all those who question the exceptions: "If there is a woman who has been raped and who is expecting a child who is the fruit of that act and who is reading my story, I would say that having that child will be the realization that something good can come from something bad, and a child is the most beautiful thing in the world and she will never regret not killing her child. That child is hers, no matter how he or she arrives, and is the one who will love her for the simple reason that she is his or her mother. To people who are the result of a violation I would say, obviously, they are not to blame for how they were conceived and their life is worth no more or less than others. They are the same because we are all human and have the right to live our lives."
María de la Paz Rodríguez, also from Argentina, was conceived in a rape and placed for adoption.
Today she is happily married and is the mother of two girls. She herself explains to the world, proudly: "My daughters are pro-life -- the granddaughters of a raped grandmother, who chose not to abort and placed their mother (me) for adoption. Otherwise, my daughters would not exist!"
"Happily adopted! I am a privileged person of life -- because I had two mothers: one who gave me life and another who gave me her life. Who dares to tell me that I should not be born as an unwanted baby conceived during a rape? I am not an abomination of nature because I am not begotten with love. It is better to ADOPT than to ABORT, because every life is worthy!"
Anahí Retsar, also from Argentina, became pregnant after a rape at the young age of 14 years. She contacted Save The 1 to tell us her story. In her words: "It never crossed my mind to kill that child because being raped and being a murderer and blaming someone who does not deserve it, are different things. The child is not to blame for his father's wrongdoing and does not have to pay for his crime." Today Anahí is married, she is the mother of several children -- some whom she adopted and her eldest son, Catrial, has already made her grandmother!
Sofia, also from Argentina, was raped five years ago. Six months after her rape and in a situation of depression and despair for what was done to her, she learned in a routine medical examination that she was expecting a child as a result of her rape. Against everything that others would expect, "That baby became my motive for life, to love my own life, and became the love of my life! My son is now 4 years old and his name is Ian, which means "sent from heaven." He is the miracle that God gave me after a misfortune and my strength to move forward. I'm still in treatment to overcome what happened, but with him, my life went from being a nightmare to being a dream."
As in the case of Sofia, many mothers from rape report how that unexpected and unplanned child -- conceived through an act of barbarism, was her motive for moving forward and the only good thing that came out of that horrendous act. The baby conceived is the triumph of good against evil.
Claudelina Sanabria, a resident of Argentina, was raped at age 11 and became pregnant. Without knowing what had happened, she found herself in front of the juvenile guardian judge who encouraged her to have an abortion. But when he explained what an abortion was, she knew that it meant killing the child she had in her womb. With the choppy words of a scared girl but the wisdom of a mature woman, she rejected abortion and gave birth to her baby. "If I had to advise a girl who expects a child after a rape, I would tell her to be strong and to choose life. You will not regret it. I rejected abortion, survived my rape, and there is nothing like giving birth and being a mother! I wish I could make all those people understand that nobody has the right to take the life of an innocent person."
Viviana Victoria, also from Argentina, suffered sexual abuse since she was 12 years old by a family friend much older than her and was pregnant at the age of 14. But far from being defended by her family or the authorities, she was forced to marry her rapist. The forced marriage and the situation of mistreatment that she suffered almost destroyed her physical and mental health, but, again, her son conceived by violence was her savior. She related her story to Save The 1: "The child I gave birth to came to take away those desires to commit suicide that I had, along with all my unhappiness. He saved my life and gave me hope despite the way he came into this world."
Akli Ahlet from Argentina became pregnant after being raped in a car and had to overcome not only the aftermath of a rape and her memory, but the contempt of society towards her son conceived in violence who was stigmatized even by the doctors themselves who pressured her to abort. She also wrote her story for Save the 1's blog: "The doctor told me that my son was disgusting -- and all for a crime he did not commit. The doctor said he was not going to survive since he already had low blood sugars. I started to cry and to say that I did not understand why he was against my son if he had not done anything wrong."
Alba -- a birthmother from rape is also from Argentina and recently shared her story with us. She
was raped from the age of 7, kept from attending school, left perpetually hungry, and eventually became pregnant at 10 years old. When her father took her for an abortion, she realized that they were going to kill her child, and she managed to escape -- fleeing to her grandmother's home. Her grandmother was beaten for sheltering her and threatened not to go to the authorities to report the rape. But once Alba gave birth to her precious daughter at the age 11, the hospital reported the rapes. She and her daughter were placed with a loving family, where Alba was able to make a permanent adoption plan. She writes: "I thank God because I had a second chance to have a family, mom, dad and siblings who helped me grow up and realize that life is beautiful." Alba received an education, a degree and owns her own business.
"I know that my daughter is growing up in a good family surrounded by love and values. Thanks to the fact that I did not allow an abortion and I said yes to life, my daughter was born and her birth revealed the abuses and the situation of mistreatment that I suffered. Thanks to the fact that the Hospital made the accusation and the Juvenile Justice intervened, I was able to get out of the hell in which I lived and today I am happy."
This is what Alba has to say to the Argentine Congress: "Dear legislators, I leave you with this reflection: Why don't you transform those unwanted children, fruit of barbarism, products of rape into desired and beloved children through the bond of adoption? An evil is not remedied with another evil. I, at ten years old and illiterate, defended my daughter's life. Today I ask you who have the duty to legislate to defend life from the moment of conception. Legislate from love and not from the culture of death."
Please understand that legalizing abortion for rape cases and other exceptions only teaches that the falsity there are lives that are worth more than others. Can you imagine creating "exceptions" for Asian or African or Jewish babies? The message is that they are not worthy of life, and that you do not have to protect their lives. There would be an international outcry if, someday, this were proposed. Yes, it is the same in our case. And we feel that there is great apathy when it comes to valuing our life. Mothers who have children conceived in a rape claim that they are themselves targeted and despised and they are questioned for not having an abortion and because they love that child.
We appreciate the empathy with the victims of a rape, but they are four times more likely to die within the next year after an abortion. In the book of Dr. David Reardon, Victims and Victors, he cites the studies conducted on this. After an abortion, rape victims have a higher rate of suicide and drug addiction. Rapists, pedophiles and sex traffickers love abortion because it destroys the evidence of the crime and empowers them to continue. Often, a girl's own mother has also allowed her to be violated or left her unprotected. It is the baby in these situations who offers evidence of the rape. If we really want to protect the victim from abuse, we must defend her from her rapist and abortion, and not from her child.
Argentina, you are a great nation, much better than others, because you have established a culture
where people are loved and valued. The Argentinian women who have given their testimony above have been able to share their stories of love for life because they all love their lives and love their children no matter how they were conceived. Please, do not accept the culture of death and discrimination again. We urge you to tell your senators NOT to vote in favor of the decriminalization of abortion. Vote NO on the legalization of the death of an innocent. Do not let the blood of innocent Argentine babies be shed on your soil.
BIO: Rebecca Kiessling is a wife, mother of 5, conceived in rape, attorney, international pro-life speaker and writer, and president of Save The 1 / Salvar El 1.
A good number of members are from Argentina, and they are outraged to see the proposed law to
expand abortion to be legal in all cases up to 14 weeks, and in cases of rape from 14 weeks to up until birth. It was bad enough when the law first began targeting the innocent child conceived in rape.
For those like us who have been conceived in a rape, it is hard to know that currently the "exceptions" are allowed through 14 weeks when a pregnant woman merely says she was raped. And for those told that their child would be disabled, it's horrifying to know that if a doctor diagnoses that the baby has malformations "incompatible with life" or if it affirms that the mother is in danger of dying, then the child can be killed up to 14 weeks. These three allegations may or may not be true, but all three are discriminating against the most vulnerable people in society who are the ones who would require more effective protection.
On August 8th, the Argentine Senate will vote on whether abortion will be legal in any case and up to birth for the so-called "exceptions." If approved, Argentina would be the fifth Latin American country to decriminalize abortion without these restrictions, after Cuba, Uruguay, Guyana, Chile and some parts of Mexico -- and the killing of unborn children will be rampant.
Save The 1 is an organization of over 600 people who were conceived in a rape like me, mothers who conceived a child after being raped and who are raising their children, mothers who after giving birth placed the child for adoption and others, who regret aborting. In addition, we have hundreds of mothers who were advised to abort because of a poor pre-natal diagnosis. We value life and we hope that the Argentine Senate will protect life without discrimination.
Our Facebook page in Spanish, Salvar El 1, now has almost 68,000 followers. Since the groundbreaking news that Argentina seeks to legalize abortion, we have received a flood of stories from Argentina from those who want to share their testimonies with us. They have been encouraged to come forward by reading my story and those of many others in our organization. Many voices are rising in Argentina, but, most importantly, the voices of the most innocent are going to be heard and the voice will be raised in defense of those Argentine unborn children who still can not raise it and who are at risk.
Like me, Karina Estrella Etchepare (whom I nicknamed "Argentine Rebecca") was conceived in rape, placed for adoption, is a family law attorney, and is now a strong voice speaking out in Argentina. Her mother was raped by her own stepfather at age 14. Karina testified recently in Congress when the new bill was up for a hearing. She asked Congress: "Does anyone dare to tell me that their life is worth more than mine because I am the result of a violation?" She explained to them that "the mother and child are both victims of the rapist. For that reason, it is necessary to protect them both. No one has the right to say that one life is worth less than the other, much less that of the fruit of a rape, because that baby does not know how she was conceived. If the rapist, with luck, is sentenced to 15 years in prison, why is the innocent baby sentenced to death?"
Margarita Juncos, from Argentina, was also conceived in rape. Her mother was 17 years old when she was raped and gave birth to her daughter alone at a women's help center. Sadly, she passed away after two months as the result of a heart problem, and Margarita was raised by her maternal grandfather. As an adult, wife and mother, she learned the truth of her conception and birth. She values the gift of life that her mother gave her in the worst circumstances and has even forgiven her biological father.
Adriana Shinki, from Argentina, was conceived in a rape when her mother was only 11 years old. Unable to take care of her, her mother left Adriana in an orphanage where she knew they were going to raise her and care for her. After many years, she had the good fortune to meet her mother and recounted in the blog of Save the 1: "How can I be angry with the woman who gave me life?".
From the feelings of someone who was conceived in violence, but raised in love, Adriana advises all those who question the exceptions: "If there is a woman who has been raped and who is expecting a child who is the fruit of that act and who is reading my story, I would say that having that child will be the realization that something good can come from something bad, and a child is the most beautiful thing in the world and she will never regret not killing her child. That child is hers, no matter how he or she arrives, and is the one who will love her for the simple reason that she is his or her mother. To people who are the result of a violation I would say, obviously, they are not to blame for how they were conceived and their life is worth no more or less than others. They are the same because we are all human and have the right to live our lives."
María de la Paz Rodríguez, also from Argentina, was conceived in a rape and placed for adoption.
Today she is happily married and is the mother of two girls. She herself explains to the world, proudly: "My daughters are pro-life -- the granddaughters of a raped grandmother, who chose not to abort and placed their mother (me) for adoption. Otherwise, my daughters would not exist!"
"Happily adopted! I am a privileged person of life -- because I had two mothers: one who gave me life and another who gave me her life. Who dares to tell me that I should not be born as an unwanted baby conceived during a rape? I am not an abomination of nature because I am not begotten with love. It is better to ADOPT than to ABORT, because every life is worthy!"
Anahí Retsar, also from Argentina, became pregnant after a rape at the young age of 14 years. She contacted Save The 1 to tell us her story. In her words: "It never crossed my mind to kill that child because being raped and being a murderer and blaming someone who does not deserve it, are different things. The child is not to blame for his father's wrongdoing and does not have to pay for his crime." Today Anahí is married, she is the mother of several children -- some whom she adopted and her eldest son, Catrial, has already made her grandmother!
Sofia, also from Argentina, was raped five years ago. Six months after her rape and in a situation of depression and despair for what was done to her, she learned in a routine medical examination that she was expecting a child as a result of her rape. Against everything that others would expect, "That baby became my motive for life, to love my own life, and became the love of my life! My son is now 4 years old and his name is Ian, which means "sent from heaven." He is the miracle that God gave me after a misfortune and my strength to move forward. I'm still in treatment to overcome what happened, but with him, my life went from being a nightmare to being a dream."
As in the case of Sofia, many mothers from rape report how that unexpected and unplanned child -- conceived through an act of barbarism, was her motive for moving forward and the only good thing that came out of that horrendous act. The baby conceived is the triumph of good against evil.
Claudelina Sanabria, a resident of Argentina, was raped at age 11 and became pregnant. Without knowing what had happened, she found herself in front of the juvenile guardian judge who encouraged her to have an abortion. But when he explained what an abortion was, she knew that it meant killing the child she had in her womb. With the choppy words of a scared girl but the wisdom of a mature woman, she rejected abortion and gave birth to her baby. "If I had to advise a girl who expects a child after a rape, I would tell her to be strong and to choose life. You will not regret it. I rejected abortion, survived my rape, and there is nothing like giving birth and being a mother! I wish I could make all those people understand that nobody has the right to take the life of an innocent person."
Viviana Victoria, also from Argentina, suffered sexual abuse since she was 12 years old by a family friend much older than her and was pregnant at the age of 14. But far from being defended by her family or the authorities, she was forced to marry her rapist. The forced marriage and the situation of mistreatment that she suffered almost destroyed her physical and mental health, but, again, her son conceived by violence was her savior. She related her story to Save The 1: "The child I gave birth to came to take away those desires to commit suicide that I had, along with all my unhappiness. He saved my life and gave me hope despite the way he came into this world."
Akli Ahlet from Argentina became pregnant after being raped in a car and had to overcome not only the aftermath of a rape and her memory, but the contempt of society towards her son conceived in violence who was stigmatized even by the doctors themselves who pressured her to abort. She also wrote her story for Save the 1's blog: "The doctor told me that my son was disgusting -- and all for a crime he did not commit. The doctor said he was not going to survive since he already had low blood sugars. I started to cry and to say that I did not understand why he was against my son if he had not done anything wrong."
Alba -- a birthmother from rape is also from Argentina and recently shared her story with us. She
was raped from the age of 7, kept from attending school, left perpetually hungry, and eventually became pregnant at 10 years old. When her father took her for an abortion, she realized that they were going to kill her child, and she managed to escape -- fleeing to her grandmother's home. Her grandmother was beaten for sheltering her and threatened not to go to the authorities to report the rape. But once Alba gave birth to her precious daughter at the age 11, the hospital reported the rapes. She and her daughter were placed with a loving family, where Alba was able to make a permanent adoption plan. She writes: "I thank God because I had a second chance to have a family, mom, dad and siblings who helped me grow up and realize that life is beautiful." Alba received an education, a degree and owns her own business.
"I know that my daughter is growing up in a good family surrounded by love and values. Thanks to the fact that I did not allow an abortion and I said yes to life, my daughter was born and her birth revealed the abuses and the situation of mistreatment that I suffered. Thanks to the fact that the Hospital made the accusation and the Juvenile Justice intervened, I was able to get out of the hell in which I lived and today I am happy."
This is what Alba has to say to the Argentine Congress: "Dear legislators, I leave you with this reflection: Why don't you transform those unwanted children, fruit of barbarism, products of rape into desired and beloved children through the bond of adoption? An evil is not remedied with another evil. I, at ten years old and illiterate, defended my daughter's life. Today I ask you who have the duty to legislate to defend life from the moment of conception. Legislate from love and not from the culture of death."
Please understand that legalizing abortion for rape cases and other exceptions only teaches that the falsity there are lives that are worth more than others. Can you imagine creating "exceptions" for Asian or African or Jewish babies? The message is that they are not worthy of life, and that you do not have to protect their lives. There would be an international outcry if, someday, this were proposed. Yes, it is the same in our case. And we feel that there is great apathy when it comes to valuing our life. Mothers who have children conceived in a rape claim that they are themselves targeted and despised and they are questioned for not having an abortion and because they love that child.
We appreciate the empathy with the victims of a rape, but they are four times more likely to die within the next year after an abortion. In the book of Dr. David Reardon, Victims and Victors, he cites the studies conducted on this. After an abortion, rape victims have a higher rate of suicide and drug addiction. Rapists, pedophiles and sex traffickers love abortion because it destroys the evidence of the crime and empowers them to continue. Often, a girl's own mother has also allowed her to be violated or left her unprotected. It is the baby in these situations who offers evidence of the rape. If we really want to protect the victim from abuse, we must defend her from her rapist and abortion, and not from her child.
Argentina, you are a great nation, much better than others, because you have established a culture
where people are loved and valued. The Argentinian women who have given their testimony above have been able to share their stories of love for life because they all love their lives and love their children no matter how they were conceived. Please, do not accept the culture of death and discrimination again. We urge you to tell your senators NOT to vote in favor of the decriminalization of abortion. Vote NO on the legalization of the death of an innocent. Do not let the blood of innocent Argentine babies be shed on your soil.
BIO: Rebecca Kiessling is a wife, mother of 5, conceived in rape, attorney, international pro-life speaker and writer, and president of Save The 1 / Salvar El 1.
Sunday, November 19, 2017
Pro-Life Peru is Morally Superior, by Rebecca Kiessling
It is a great honor to have been invited to speak at Peru’s
first international pro-life conference.
I’m
an attorney, wife, mother of 5, international pro-life speaker and
writer, and the President of Save The 1 - a global pro-life organization with a
network of over 525 who were conceived
in rape (like me) and mothers who became pregnant by rape who are either
raising their children, birthmothers, or post-abortive and regret aborting. Additionally, we have hundreds of parents in
our network who were told to abort due to a challenging pre-natal diagnosis, or
those whose parents were told to abort them.
We value our lives and the lives of our children. We urge the people of Peru to continue
protecting human life without exception.
I’m sure you’ve heard abortion advocates say that it’s
barbaric to force a rape victim to carry “a rapist’s child.” First of all, I am not the child of a rapist –
I am the child of a rape victim. My
mother and I object to me being characterized otherwise. The rapist has no claim to me! Tell those who say such things, do not insult
me or my mother in this way.
Secondly, it is simply barbaric to punish an innocent child
for someone else's crime. Justice
dictates that in a civilized society, we punish rapists, not babies. Those who
would kill innocent children are the ones who are barbaric!
I did not deserve the death penalty for the crime of my
biological father. My own birthmother
had tried to kill me at two illegal abortions, and was pro-choice when we met
29 years ago, but today, we are thankful we were both protected by law from the
horror of abortion, just as the women and children of Peru are protected today.
She said back then, the only option she
was given was to abort me. She said that
there were no pro-life pregnancy resource centers at the time, and no one gave
her any other help or hope.
Peru has legislators who have placed gun sights on children
like me. To them I say, take them
off! Remove me from your scope. I am not your game to be hunted and
killed. I am a person and deserve life
every bit as much as you. This targeting
of life is dehumanizing and demoralizing, not just for those yet unborn, but
for every person living who was conceived in violence. The sting of your hatred is palpable and
life-long.
Legalizing abortion for rape or other exceptions sends a
message to our people group that our lives
are worth less than anyone
else’s. Imagine hearing of some nation
introducing an abortion ban with an exception in cases of babies conceived in
Jewish homes, Catholic families, or from Latino moms.
The message which would be sent is that these
people are not worthy of living and did not deserve to be protected like
everyone else. There would be an
international outcry if the legalization of such prejudice were even proposed
because everyone would understand the discriminatory implications and
intentions. Yet, it is the same for us,
and we ache from such malice and the reckless disregard for our lives. Rape survivor mothers grieve how their
children are systematically targeted and devalued. They suffer more because they are not
believed they were raped since they did not abort and because they actually
love their children.
We appreciate concern for rape victims, but they are four
times more likely to die within the next year after an abortion, as opposed to
giving birth. In Dr. David Reardon’s
book, Victims and Victors: Speaking Out About Their Pregnancies, Abortions and
Children Resulting From Sexual Assault, he cites the research done on the
subject. After an abortion, rape victims
have a higher rate of being murdered, committing suicide, drug overdose, etc.. Rapists, child molesters and sex traffickers
love abortion, which destroys the evidence and enables them to continue
perpetrating. Oftentimes, a girl’s own
mother has been either trafficking her or leaving her unprotected.
It is always the baby who is the hero of the story, by
exposing the rape, delivering her out of the abusive situation, protecting her
and bringing her healing. So if you care
about rape victims, you must protect her from the rapist and from the abortion,
and not the baby! The baby is not the scary
enemy. It’s just absurd to suggest that
any woman should have to be afraid of a baby.
In regards to a pre-natal diagnosis of “incompatible with
life” – it is impossible for the baby to be such when that unborn child is
still living. As long as there is a
heartbeat, there is life and there is hope. Physicians who peddle abortion are
truly the ones with fatal heart defects, often failing to treat the children of
parents who refused to abort. A eugenics
mentality becomes pervasive when you allow abortion for any reason.
I see the language of the global abortion lobby and how they
try to demean pro-life nations like Peru by characterizing them as antiquated
and “third-world,” as if killing the most vulnerable is somehow “progressive.” The truth is, Peru is a morally superior
nation because they’ve established the most important characteristics of a
culture – one where people are loved, protected, and accepted. Child sacrifice is what’s antiquated. Peruvians, please do not commence a culture
of death and discrimination.
We started a Spanish language division of Save The 1 -- Salvar El 1 -- a few
years ago because we saw how Latin America is being targeted by the abortion
forces. They are using the rape issue to
try to legalize abortion – on demand for any reason through all nine months of
pregnancy at taxpayer expense, just like they did in the United States. We know how critical our stories are for
impacting the culture because it is stories which pierce the heart in ways in
which arguments cannot.
In the United States landmark Supreme Court decision of Roe
vs Wade which legalized abortion across the U.S., the pregnant woman Norma McCorvey
– called Jane Roe, was told by her attorneys to lie that she was
gang-raped. They said this would make
her case stronger. Many years later, she
sought to have her own case overturned, feeling the weight of over one million
abortions per year on her shoulders.
Nearly 60 million children have been killed in the womb based upon a lie
of rape. The abortion advocates know
this and that’s why they exploit the violation of women to open the door for
killing any and all unborn children.
As I speak globally, I tell people about the good people of
Peru and how they fight like their own lives depend on it – how a year and a
half ago, Peruvians successfully defeated the efforts to legalize abortion in
cases of rape, and how one month later, they had 700,000 pro-life people attend
their March for Life in Lima! It took
the U.S. 40 years of legalized abortion to finally have 700,000 attend our
March for Life.
Everyone I tell is amazed that Peru not only had that many
people, but that they cared enough to show up to take a stand for the child
conceived in rape. Do you know how many
people attended the March for Life in the U.S. when they began legalizing
abortion in cases of rape across the southern states in the late 1960’s? None!
There was no March for Life because scarcely anyone cared! It wasn’t until abortion became legal for any
reason that a March was organized. Not
so in Peru. The people of Peru are very
wise to be so vigilant now.
When I was asked to speak in Peru at the first ever
international pro-life conference, I jumped at the opportunity to meet people
who are truly my heroes and to be a source of information and encouragement. Peru demonstrates to the world how to value
all life. They are the pro-life role
models throughout the globe!
Recently, the advocates for abortion have again introduced a
bill in Peru’s legislature to legalize abortion in cases of rape. The forces of death and destruction are not going
away. I urge the good people of Peru, do
not relent! Please, don’t let your
nation turn into a killing field like the U.S., like Canada, like so much of
Europe and Asia. Don’t spill the blood
of innocent Peruvian children on your land.
Continue protection without exception, from the moment of conception.
BIO: Rebecca Kiessling is the founder and President of Save The 1. She's a wife, mother, attorney,
international speaker, writer and activist. She's spoken in legislatures around the world, including in Brazil, Chile, Ireland, Northern Ireland, Poland, Malta, Canada and the United States Congress, and many state legislatures. Rebecca has also worked on crafting and introducing legislation to protect rape victims and their children, including the Rape Survivor Child Custody Act and the Pregnant Rape Victims Act. As an attorney, she's litigated numerous high-profile cases, on a pro bono basis, of international attention defending human life and rape victim mothers and their children. She's also the co-founder of Embryo Defense.
Wednesday, September 13, 2017
I helped my mother heal from the rape in which I was conceived, by Claudia Marcela from Columbia
Hello, my name is Claudia Marcela and I’m Colombian. I’m the product of the rape that my mother endured at the
age of 15 at the hands of a family acquaintance.
My mother still had the innocence of a girl her age and she
couldn’t say anything in her house because she was afraid of the threats of the
person who had defiled and left her pregnant.
She didn’t understand why her body was changing so quickly
and she couldn’t find the courage to tell her mother Ana, her grandmother
Mercedes, or her sister Amanda what had happened to her. It was something very painful for her.
However, the person who was most distraught by the situation
was her grandmother Mercedes. My mother was her precious little girl, the apple
of her eye. Her pain was so great that she became sick, and after she found out
the truth that her granddaughter was pregnant by rape, she was never the same again.
With fervor, my family searched for the man who raped my mother, in order that they could turn him into the police, but they weren’t able to
find him because he’d already left town.
My mother and grandmother decided to persist with the
pregnancy, not only because of the advanced stage of her pregnancy, but because
the innocent child she carried within had all the rights in the world to be
born.
The months passed and I was born. My mother’s uncle said
that my birth helped relieve some of my mother's pain but my mother’s grandmother, my
great-grandmother Mercedes, couldn’t overcome the pain and she fell into bed
depressed.
Everyday she would ask that I was laid beside her so that
she could cuddle me, kiss me and watch over me, but her pain didn’t let her
continue doing that and she died shortly after. This caused my mother to blame herself for her grandmother’s
death and she hardened herself, even with her baby.
A few months later, her sister Amanda, my aunt, married a
man named Edgar who fell in love with me from the moment he laid eyes on me,
and like my grandfather, he became a paternal figure for me.
My grandparents hadn’t lived together for a long time. My
grandfather lived in another town with his own family, but he was a father to me during
the vacations in which I went to visit him. He was loving and fun.
In everyone
in my family, I found love, but in my mother, I noticed an emotional distance. Though she gave me gifts and material things, I couldn’t understand why there was this distance.
As the time passed, I asked about my father, and the answer
was that he had died
before I was born. However, when I turned 13, a relative confessed the truth to me. Even
though learning the truth of my origins was very hard, it made
me understand the attitude of my mother. Nonetheless, I never discussed this with her, out of fear of
hurting her by reminding her of such a painful moment.
The time passed by and I turned 21. I became pregnant with
the child of my boyfriend, Carlos, but I didn’t realize I was pregnant. I went
for a medical check up because I didn’t feel well and the doctor performed an
ultrasound on me where I could see a small image the size of a grain of rice.
The doctor told me, “Claudia, you’re pregnant.”
I didn’t care if the father would be responsible for him or
if my family would accept this development. My eyes filled with tears, my heart
wanted to jump out of my chest with love and joy, but the doctor thought that I
was crying out of fear, and he told me, “Claudia, if you want an abortion,
you’re just in time for it, and I can help you.” I looked at him with wide eyes filled with anger, and a
desire to hit him. I said, “Butcher, I’d give my life for my child! I’d do
anything for him without caring about anything else.”
I left the doctor’s office furious, found the father of my
child and told him, “I’m pregnant, and I’m having this child with or without
your help.” He told me to calm down, that we would go through the pregnancy
together and that the baby was as much his as he or she was mine. The words of the man
who would become my husband filled me with peace and encouragement.
After that, we went to talk to my mother. And that woman who
was always distant and strong like a
rock became passionate because of the news! My grandmother was happy as well.
Later, a little battle unfolded within the family when my uncle Edgar found out the news. The
women in my family wanted the baby to be a girl, but my uncle desired a boy so
that there could be another male around to keep him company. Finally, my uncle won the war because my beautiful son was
born and he won over all of the women in the family, including myself, his
mother. That child has been a great blessing.
Six months after the birth of my son Mauricio, I found out I
was pregnant with my daughter, Laura, and 13 years after that came my
youngest daughter Ana Valeria. My children are my greatest blessings.
Years later, my mother asked for psychological help to help
heal the trauma from her rape and the after effects. We did it together. Thanks to God and the therapy we received, my mother
realized that the only person she could count on in her life was her daughter,
and that realization, joyful if very late, filled her with serenity.
My children knew the story of my life during their
adolescence. It was hard for them to accept it, but they did it with the wisdom
and love from God.
The phrase “God makes roses grow where there are only
stones” is very fitting and I’d like this story to get to all of the women who
don’t know what to do when they find themselves in a similar
situation, or any women who are thinking of aborting their children.
My whole life I was able to achieve because of the wonderful Divine being I have always called “Father”, and the wonderful, celestial being called
Jesus. I always went to him, in every moment, as well as his Saint Mother,
Mary.
BIO: Claudia Marcela is a wife, mother of 3, and now blogger for Salvar El 1 -- the Spanish division of Save The 1. Read her story in Spanish here.
Though conceived in rape, my son is the best thing that has happened to me, by Akli Ahlet from Argentina
I always lived
alone with my dad because my mom passed away when I was four years old and nobody in my
family ever wanted to take care of me. My dad found it very difficult to
take care of me and go to work, so after school I used to go to swimming
lessons by myself.
At age 15, I met
at school a girl who hated me because I was completely against abortion. She would always say me: "That's because they never raped you." And I replied
that even if someone did, I would never kill my son because he would not be to blame
for that violent aggression.
One day, while
waiting for the bus, she and her brother
got me in a car and raped me. To be honest, this hasn’t caused me any permanent trauma,
although that day I felt disgusting. But
just in that moment. . . .
I told my dad what
happened, and I still do not understand why, but he felt
guilty for not being able to pick me up because of his work. He was not to
blame because, truly, it was impossible for him to pick me up. He had to work because otherwise, we would not be
able to eat.
We are from Croatia, although we now live in Argentina where life is
easier for us. But in Croatia, everything was more complicated and I had to stop attending swim lessons after the rape.
Four months later, I
started fainting and having very low blood glucose levels. I am a diabetic and
I went to the doctor where they told me that I was pregnant and that I had to
have an abortion because the pregnancy came from a rape.
The so-called "doctor"
told me that my son was disgusting -- all for a crime my son did not commit! She
said he would not survive because of my low blood glucose levels. I started to cry and to say that I did not understand
why she was against my son if he had not done anything wrong.
My dad grabbed my hand
and pulled me out without a word. The only thing he told me when we got into
the car was that, when my son was born, I had start working because with my father's
salary, he wasn’t going to be able to pay
for everything. I knew that my father would never ask me to kill my son and his
words made me very happy.
I kept going to
school, eating right so that my blood sugar did not drop. My
classmates always looked at me badly and said that my son was going to ruin my
life. But I never responded to them because my son really is my reason to live.
He is a very good
boy and there are people who look at him rudely because, in one way or another,
they learned how he was conceived. At the age 5 he said, "They're bad
Mommy, and I’m good, that's why they look at me like that."
He still does not know
how he was conceived. I will tell him when he grows up, but my son is the best
thing that has happened in my life and I would go through everything that happened again to see my son every day, and also to see my
father's joy when he looks at his grandson and says: "At last, a boy for
me".
Now I am studying to
become a teacher and my son comes to school with me from time to time and gets
very spoiled there. When I experienced what it was like to be a mother, I understood
what true happiness is.
BIO: Akli Ahlet, from Argentina,
sent the Spanish division of Save The 1, Salvar El 1 this testimony to share it and to help other women who have been
through something similar. Here is her story in Spanish.
Tuesday, August 29, 2017
I See My Son Reflected In You -- Message from Mother Who Miscarried After Rape, by Diana Contreras
This message moved me to tears! I received this heartfelt message from a Chilean mother just one week after the Chilean Supreme Court upheld the new abortion law legalizing abortion for rape, incest, fetal abnormality and life of the mother, and one week before I will arrive in Chile to speak, where I will have the opportunity to meet Diana in person. This letter is published here with her permission. I hope this will be an encouragement to everyone associated with Save The 1, to see that we are a global family who truly care for one another. -- Rebecca Kiessling
Dear Rebecca, I hope you are well. Unfortunately, my country of Chile gave the green light to death, but I would like to express my commitment to life.
I have thought a lot about you because I am the mother of two babies who died -- Angelito and Gabriel. The first one was the product of a rape when I was only 15 years old. I wanted to express my feelings of affection towards you because I see my son, Angelito reflected in you and not because of your origin, but because of your feelings of kindness and love towards the innocent.
I know that my son would have fought side by side with you and me. To me, you are much more than a product of rape. To me, you are love made flesh and I promise that I will continue fighting whether we have that law or not. Although. I must confess that I suffer seeing how the people have become cold and indolent, but I will not cease in my fight for my children and for all those who are to come, and for you too. I will not stop fighting against the culture of death.
Thank you for being a sight of my Angelito, who without knowing, with his short passing through my life left an eternal footprint. From here I send a hug and I ask my children to give you the strength to continue fighting, a hug with all my heart.
Diana Contreras
Angel of Light Foundation,
Spokesperson for identity in the law
Diana is a blogger for Save The 1 and our Spanish division, Salvar El 1. Her story appears here in English and here in Spanish.
Dear Rebecca, I hope you are well. Unfortunately, my country of Chile gave the green light to death, but I would like to express my commitment to life.I have thought a lot about you because I am the mother of two babies who died -- Angelito and Gabriel. The first one was the product of a rape when I was only 15 years old. I wanted to express my feelings of affection towards you because I see my son, Angelito reflected in you and not because of your origin, but because of your feelings of kindness and love towards the innocent.
I know that my son would have fought side by side with you and me. To me, you are much more than a product of rape. To me, you are love made flesh and I promise that I will continue fighting whether we have that law or not. Although. I must confess that I suffer seeing how the people have become cold and indolent, but I will not cease in my fight for my children and for all those who are to come, and for you too. I will not stop fighting against the culture of death.
Thank you for being a sight of my Angelito, who without knowing, with his short passing through my life left an eternal footprint. From here I send a hug and I ask my children to give you the strength to continue fighting, a hug with all my heart. Diana Contreras
Angel of Light Foundation,
Spokesperson for identity in the law
Diana is a blogger for Save The 1 and our Spanish division, Salvar El 1. Her story appears here in English and here in Spanish.
Friday, August 25, 2017
Interview of Save The 1 President Rebecca Kiessling conducted by David Arboix from Salvar El 1
Rebecca,
it is unusual to meet a person who has been conceived in rape. Could you
explain the influence that this discovery had on your understanding of yourself
and your life?
When I first learned how I
was conceived, I instantly felt targeted and devalued by so much of society
because I had heard what people say about abortion in cases of rape. My very soul
cried out for my worth. I was wounded by what people said, but I have never
been one to crawl into the corner and just give up.
I am safe. I'm alive. But
there are others who are yet at risk and the most selfish thing for me to do
would be to just say, “Oh well, at least I got to be born.” I can't do that. I
feel like my life was spared from a burning building, and as I have the
opportunity to go back and save others, I'm going to do it.
Can
you explain the origin of the name of your organization? What is Save The 1 and what is its role
within the broad pro-life world?
The name Save The 1 comes
from two places. First of all, there is a sad motto within
the pro-life
movement in the United States, that you should “save the 99 in exchange for the 1.”
They allow the rape exceptions in mediocre laws which merely regulate abortion.
For example, there will be a proposed law to end funding of abortion or funding
of Planned Parenthood, but it will have a rape exception. Or they will have a
ban on late-term abortions for children who feel pain, but they will have a
rape exception. The pro-life leaders who are willing to compromise with the
rape exception will use this unfortunate motto of “Save the 99 for the 1” and
they will say it's like the “burning building analogy,” asking, “Wouldn't you
save the 99 in exchange for the 1?”
They will claim that they
simply don't have the votes from politicians to be able to save 100%. But the
reason they don't have the votes is because they keep supporting rape exception
politicians. So in the burning building scenario, what's really happening is
that you have firefighters who are coming in for job interviews before the fire
chief and they tell the fire chief, “Just so you know, I discriminate. When I
go into a burning building I am not going to save them all. I don't want to
save children who will be a ‘horrible reminder’ of the fire, and if you try to
force me to go in to save them all, then I won't go into save any.”
Now what fire chief in his
right mind would hire that firefighter?! But in the United States, the fire
chief who is the pro-life leader not only hires the one who promises to
discriminate, but when they in fact fail to save the innocents, the leaders
give them a hefty bonus in the form of a political action endorsement.
So this is the corruption
we have in the United States and it is the majority voice within the pro-life
movement here. If you wonder why the United States can't end abortion with so
many pro-life organizations and such huge budgets with their fundraising, I am
telling you this is why.
Whenever I hear the
saying, “Save the 99 in exchange for the 1”, I can't help but think of the
Parable of the Lost Sheep, because Jesus left the 99 to save the 1. In
context, Jesus was talking about the little children. He said, “See that you do
not despise any of these little ones for I tell you that their angels in heaven
always look upon the face of my Father in heaven.” And then He goes right into
the whole Parable of the Lost Sheep, explaining how the Good Shepherd leaves
the 99 to save the 1 lost sheep, and He finishes the parable by explaining it’s
point: “For in the same way, your father in Heaven is not willing that any of
these little ones should perish.” And neither should we!
In context, Jesus was speaking about the little ones who are despised who are
at risk of perishing. In today's world, are these at-risk, despised children
not the so-called “difficult cases” in the abortion debate? Are they not the
children who are conceived in rape or incest or who have fetal abnormalities?
Our Father in Heaven is not willing that any of these should perish.
This is why I gave our
organization the name Save The 1. I founded it because I had my website rebeccakiessling.com for many years
and was continually adding other people’s stories to my website, but I was
concerned that if something ever happened to me, then all of those stories
would be lost forever. I wanted something which would endure, and I wanted a
legacy which would not be under my name. A neutral place was needed for
everyone with these stories to feel like we are all part of something greater, and not
just belonging to me.
Today we have a global
network with a database of over 500 who were conceived in rape or mothers who
became pregnant by rape, as well as hundreds from our carry to birth division
who were given a challenging prenatal diagnosis and told to abort, or their
parents had been told to abort them.
We have a Spanish division, Salvar El 1, which has the largest following on social media which is almost 35,000 on Facebook, as well as a Portuguese division, and we are still in
the process of launching
a Polish division. It is clear to me that the Spanish division has become the
most popular because this is where the battle is primarily being fought on the
so-called “difficult cases” -- all throughout Latin America. I know this is why
our stories are so highly valued by the Spanish-speaking world.
We have a team of
translators from all over Latin America as well as Spain and I knew that if
these stories were translated, then others who speak Spanish would come forward
to share their stories. Sure enough, we now have stories of women from all over
Latin America and their stories are having to be translated into English for us
to share with the English-speaking world!
It is
clear that Save The 1 fulfils a clear informative and formative function within
the pro-life community. Do you also carry out some kind of support and
counseling activities for women who are in a situation similar to that of one
of your speakers?
We have many private
groups on Facebook for people with the difficult stories. But our Spanish group
has not grown like the English groups have. For example, for men who were
conceived in rape who speak English, we have almost three dozen members in our
private Facebook group for them. We have a few dozen women who speak English
who are in our private group for birth mothers who became pregnant by rape. We
also have groups by state or region.
Our Spanish network just
has not grown like that yet, but we do hope that, as people know that we have a
support network specific to these stories, then they will spread the word and
recommend these people to get in contact with us so that we can connect them
all together, because no one should have to be alone in this. Even still,
what we hear most commonly is that just reading other people's stories, being
able to understand what brought them healing, is very comforting – especially
to know that you are not alone.
You
were conceived after a violation. Why do you think that the life of the
conceived in these circumstances is often considered as a mistake? Why do so
many countries’ legislative systems struggle with the introduction of the
exceptions clause?
I think the biggest problem
has been that we are nameless and faceless to most people. We know that in war,
it is always easier to kill the enemy when you dehumanize him or her. As long
as we remain merely a concept, it is easier for politicians to sweep us under
the rug like we are just dirt of the earth and to consent to us being killed.
This is why I feel so
strongly that our stories need to be told, our voices need to be heard so that
others would have to look us in the eye before consenting to our people group
being killed. I have changed the hearts of many, many politicians throughout
the world and here in the United States, including two presidential candidates
during their campaigns. They said they could not look me in the eyes and
justify the rape exception any longer.
I understand that everyone
wishes to show concern for rape victims. My dearest friends on Earth are rape
victims. My own precious mother is a rape victim. I very much appreciate
people's concern, but they also need to understand that more violence is not the
answer. More violence does not bring her healing, and punishing the innocent
person is certainly not going to heal her.
I think sometimes it comes
down to worldview. If you don't believe in a Creator who designs people and has
special plans for each person's life, then you must think that the rapist is
creating children like me. For anyone who has ever experienced infertility, you
know that you can try to plan your parenthood, but you really don't have the
power you thought you had when you were younger. We are not the Creator.
But the real reason why we
have rape exception clauses being introduced is because abortion advocates know
that this is how they can make abortion legal on demand for any reason. They
use rape as merely an excuse to justify all abortions. They know that if they
can get abortion legalized in cases of rape, then the door will be open for all
abortions. This is how abortion became legal in the United States. In the
landmark United States Supreme Court case of Roe versus Wade which legalized
abortion through all nine months of pregnancy for any reason, the pregnant
woman called “Jane Roe” whose real name was Norma McCorvey later changed her
mind about abortion and sought to have her case overturned. She filed a sworn
affidavit with Congress explaining that she lied when she said she was gang
raped because her lawyers told her to say she was raped -- that it would make
her case stronger.
Amnesty International has
been advocating to legalize abortion around the world using the rape issue, and
on the radio I have debated these advocates from Amnesty International and
from other abortion rights organizations. When I made this point that they will
use the rape issue to legalize all abortions, they denied that fact. Then I
asked the next question, are women going to be required to prove the rape? Will
they have to report it? Will there be a trial before the child is convicted and
sentenced to death? They always laugh and then say mockingly, you aren't going
to believe a rape victim?
They are so smug because
they will now play on people's sympathies that you should just simply believe a
woman if she goes into an abortion clinic and says she was raped. This is why
it will become abortion on demand for any reason. They will coach women to just
say they were raped just like Jane Roe was told by her lawyers to say she was
raped. Or, they can just coach the doctor to file the abortion as a rape case.
In Spain
and probably in other countries of our cultural environment, we feel that the
defense of life begins to be a lost topic. Do you also consider that this is
so?
Sometimes what I see is
much like what I once heard a religious leader refer to as a “holy huddle” -- like
how a sports team gets together in a huddle to cheer each other on and discuss
strategy. But then they never make it out onto the field to engage the opposition.
It is extremely
frustrating to see people of faith who participate in making some image or
video of a kitten or dog doing tricks go viral on social media, but when it
comes to raising awareness and defending the preborn from being slaughtered,
they aren't willing to share on Facebook, Twitter, etc.. This is very
disheartening.
In
recent years, the abortion lobby and other international organizations have
been pushing hard in Latin America to intrude the decriminalization of abortion
through exceptions. Little by little, it is getting the culture of death implanted
in countries where life has always been protected. How do you contemplate this
panorama?
Nations which have been protecting all children without discrimination are better people because you teach love and not hate. I was so impressed to see in the Spring of 2016, 700,000 people show up to the March for Life in Lima Peru, just one month after pro-life people there defeated the efforts to legalize abortion in cases of rape.
Nations which have been protecting all children without discrimination are better people because you teach love and not hate. I was so impressed to see in the Spring of 2016, 700,000 people show up to the March for Life in Lima Peru, just one month after pro-life people there defeated the efforts to legalize abortion in cases of rape.
Do you know how many
people came to the March for Life in the United States when states began
legalizing abortion in cases of rape in the mid to late-1960s? None! Noone cared
enough to organize a national march. There was no March for Life in the United
States until abortion became legal in all circumstances for any reason through
all nine months of pregnancy. And even then, we did not reach the number of
700,000 until the 40-year anniversary of the Roe vs Wade Supreme Court case
which legalized abortion in every state for any reason.
It took us 40 years to
have that many people care enough to sacrifice their time to attend our national
March For Life, and that's with over 1 million being slaughtered every year in
the United States! In Peru, abortion wasn't even legalized and the effort to
legalize it was “only” for the circumstances of rape, and yet, the good people
of Peru cared enough about the child conceived in rape to show up and March.
You are a different people. You have
more love. Do not become like the United States.
What
is the motivation that today, with so much scientific knowledge and
technological advances, still a significant number of the political and medical
community are so favorable to abortion?
Politicians and physicians
often like to control people groups. They can do this through abortion. There
are those who are often quite elitist, thinking only the so-called “right” kind
of people should be born, which is part of the eugenics mentality, which is
rampant in much of the medical community. They have become heartless.
What
would you recommend to the Spanish society and the Latin American society so as
not to give up in our struggle to defend the lives of all, without exception?
Fight like your own life
depended on it. Do not be selfish just because you were wanted by your mother,
or because you had the opportunity to be born.
BIO: Rebecca Kiessling is the founder and President of Save The 1. She's an internationalpro-life speaker, writer and attorney. David Arboix from Spain is a translator and editor for Salvar El 1 -- the Spanish speaking division of Save The 1.
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