Tuesday, September 30, 2014

Why Does This Hospital Want To Let My 2 Year Old Daughter Die? by Brad Smith

We have a friend, Kayse, here in Michigan who has a beautiful little 2 year old girl named Lila.  

Kayse sent us an update the other day (Saturday September 27th) because Lila has been sick for the last couple of weeks.  Most people have read about the viruses making their way around the country and get a little nervous about their children getting one of these viruses that have put so many children in the hospital.  Well, we pay close attention to these updates that we receive because Lila has Trisomy 18 (Edwards Syndrome) which is the same chromosome abnormality that our 5 ½ years old daughter Faith has.  These respiratory viruses can be particularly difficult for our children.      

Lila has been hospitalized twice this month for a total of about 11 days for a bronchiole infection and lack of oxygenation. Wednesday evening she was discharged from the PICU (pediatric intensive care unit) on a small amount of oxygen. Doctors told Kayse to continue with care at home and to return if she gets a fever of any kind or if she gets worse at all.  Well her oxygen saturation started dropping into the high 70's which is very low since our bodies need to operate in the mid 90s.  Kayse upped her oxygen and gave her a breathing treatment. Then Lila developed a low grade temperature so they called the after-hours pediatrician number, and the doctor asked them to go to the hospital. When they arrived, the resident and attending doctors in ER wanted to have her admitted.  The ER doctors had the PICU resident and attending physicians come down to look at Lila.  In the meantime, the nurse had not come into the room yet, and the respiratory therapist gave Lila a breathing treatment and stated that her lungs sounded coarse which means she had mucous in her lungs.

The PICU doctors arrived and claimed that Lila had a left ear infection and wanted to send her on her way.  Knowing that the respiratory therapist said her lungs sounded coarse, Kayse did not accept this and explained her fears about how many of our trisomy children pass away from respiratory problems, and she did not want that to be Lila.  At that point, the doctor from the PICU looked Kayse in the eye and asked if she knew anything about trisomy 18 children and their life expectancies, and how Lila is past her life expectancy. Obviously, Kayse was very upset and angry.  She understands more about Trisomy 18 than this doctor because she has been living it day in and day out for the last 2 years.  Not only is this an insulting question to Kayse about her understanding, but worse, it is an attack on the value of Lila’s very life.  

Kayse explained that until this illness Lila has been a very healthy and happy child. She has more than proven herself, time and time again…like she should even have to prove herself to earn treatment? Is this doctor the arbiter of whose life is worthy of treatment?  Should Lila now have treatment withheld so she will simply die and go away?  Why should Lila not be offered the same level of care as any other child?  Why shouldn't she be given steroids to help her feel better faster? Why shouldn't they run tests? How is it OK to stick her in a room for 4 hours and never offer her Tylenol for her fever and discomfort? How is it ok that her nurse never even came in to assess her? How is Lila’s life worth less than the other children in the hospital?

As I read Kayse’s update and what this doctor said, I could not help, but think about my own illnesses during my childhood.  I had pneumonia 4 or 5 times between ages 1-7.  My parents were visiting this weekend for my 14 year old son’s birthday so I asked them if anyone ever suggested that I was past my life expectancy or did they simply treat my multiple illnesses?  They made it clear that no doctor ever even suggested such an idea and they simply treated me as a child who needed help.  I had pneumonia more times as a child than my 5 ½ year old Trisomy 18 daughter Faith has had it.  So why was my life worth saving? Is it because I have the ability to write this story?  Lila and my daughter Faith are lovely little girls who have tremendous value because they were created in the image of God.

Lila is now resting at home with her parents.  Please pray for Lila that she will recover quickly and for her family that they will be able to rest and have peace.


LifeNews Note: Brad Smith and his wife Jesi are Save The 1 (www.savethe1.com) pro-life speakers from Rochester Hills, Michigan.  Learn more about Brad and Jesi at www.keepingourfaith.com.
Friday, September 26, 2014

DR. RC SPROUL: It’s All Bloody Murder

Recently my brother went to a used book sale and bought an older book for me written by Dr. R.C. Sproul Sr. entitled “Now That’s a Good Question!” because I am a fan of Sproul’s normally well-crafted and thoughtful defense of the Christian faith. I started flipping through and read Sproul’s answer to the question, “Is a woman acting in sin when she aborts a pregnancy that is the result of rape?” I found his answer to this question and an earlier one posed about babies with abnormalities so filled with needless obscurity and a troubling position shift on life that I literally started to argue with him out loud.

Dr. Sproul wrote in his answer to the question whether it is a sin to abort a baby that was conceived in rape, that Christians should never be involved with these “therapeutic abortions,” but continues on taking away all credibility of his previous statement by writing, “I certainly don’t think that it is clearly against the law of God to have a therapeutic abortion in the case of rape or incest.” 

Seriously?! What is lawful to do good or evil, to save a life or to kill it? We do not put the rapist to death for perpetrating their brutal crimes or sterilize parents who have had children with abnormalities. Why then would we put the baby to death for being a victim or for handicaps that are no fault of their own?  It is quite clear that the law of God condemns putting the innocent to death.  Jesus warned us not to even offend one of his little ones for we would be better off to have a millstone wrapped around our necks and be cast into the sea.

Furthermore, to call an abortion of any baby “therapeutic” is ludicrous. There is nothing medically or psychologically therapeutic or curative about death – neither for the baby nor the mother. Abortion does not cure a child with abnormalities - it simply wipes them from the face of the earth. An abortion does not take away the pain of a woman’s rape, but increases her misery with sorrow over the death of her child. A baby, normally considered a mother’s treasure, becomes trash for a garbage dump, and this is considered therapeutic?

Dr. Sproul also warns his readers not to get “…sidetracked by that ‘special case’ issue.” Every child is a “special case” issue and every abortion is a personal extinction because it’s the loss of a child made in the image of God. The death of a child conceived in rape or a child with abnormalities is no less horrific than mass genocide. Was the baby conceived in rape not known by God or a heritage from Him? In that babe’s mouth was praise not perfected? Did He not form and knit them together in the womb with great purpose like any other child? We are not to despise any of God’s little ones.  

Unlike Sproul, I cannot “understand those who would want to say that it be permissible” to allow abortion due to rape or incest.  I am involved in a group called Save The 1 (www.savethe1.com) and I have many “special case” friends.  As a friend of mine who was conceived in rape so aptly put it, “I am my mother’s daughter, not a rapist’s baby.” The defense of her life and others like her is not a sidetrack to the pro-life movement, but the very heart of it.

Let’s not be gutless and pretend compassion for a woman is based in the idea that the law of God is  unclear. We are most compassionate to the women that experience horrific brutality or women with abnormal babies when we come along side of them and show them that our God specializes in bringing beauty out of ashes, purpose in sorrow, and strength to their darkest hour. We would do well to speak and warn as Susan B. Anthony once did, saying that abortion will only, “burden a woman’s conscience in this life and her soul in death.”

Why would I take so much time to address Dr.Sproul’s answer? Because my daughter with multiple handicaps is one of those special cases society singles out for destruction. Ambiguity from Christian theologians becomes a foothold for those who oppose life to stand upon. Hesitant and weak words from pastors fail to warn women of the great attack on themselves and their children. Finally, the church choosing not to respond to the ‘special case’ has been our awful and silent response. Dr. R.C. Sproul – make it clear that every abortion is “bloody murder.”


LifeNews Note: Jesi Smith is a No Exceptions, No Compromise pro-life Save The 1 speaker from Rochester Hills, Michigan.  www.savethe1.com  You can learn more about Jesi at www.keepingourfaith.com.
Monday, September 22, 2014

A Broken Body Means a Painful Pregnancy, by Lauren Lee

I am a mom of a three year old little girl and had no plans to get pregnant again because I have a severe spinal injury -- a fused pelvis full of metal and can barely walk.  I am in constant pain.  My pain was so severe I was on dilaudid pills.

I got hurt while on active duty in the U.S. army, during training.  My condition is a result of multiple injuries.  First I broke my leg -- a complete compound fracture, but I was lied to and was told it was only a sprain.  So I then attempted to jump out of a 5 ton vehicle with 100 lbs of gear on my body.  

The drop off was 5.5 ft high -- I was standing when I jumped.  My ligaments across my sacrum could not handle the stress because the leg had not healed at that point, so my pelvis gave out on impact, resulting in bi-lateral tears across the SI joint.  I then kept going, even though it was painful -- just like I did with the leg, because my dream was to be an airborne soldier.  While practicing to fall from an 8 ft tall platform, the same thing happened to my other side and my pubic bone.  I now have half of a pubic bone, and the only thing holding my pelvis together is my metal hardware, most of which is loose.  So there is a lot of pain from that.  I have several more surgeries to undergo because the first two were not done properly.  


It's been extremely painful.  My life as a person has completely changed since I got out of the military and that in itself has been a journey.  I've been all across the USA to get treatment for my condition.

That aside, when I became pregnant, I had only been dating the father for a month and a half. The first time we were intimate, our choice of birth control failed.  I didn't think twice about it, because it took 10 months for me to conceive my 3 year old daughter.  So when our “protection” malfunctioned, I brushed it off.  I had no clue that at that moment, I had become pregnant.  

A few weeks later, when I wasn’t even late yet, I took a pregnancy test and it came back positive.  I had convinced myself at first to get an abortion.  I talked myself into it thinking it was justifiable because of my injuries and how hard it would be on me.  And the list of how easy it would be on me was long if I just got an abortion.  I was sold on aborting as my solution, despite having some Christian background.  When I called my boyfriend to tell him I was pregnant, he just wanted to support whatever decision I made.  

After first visiting an Ob/gyn, I went to one appointment at Planned Parenthood, without telling anyone I was going.  At the first appointment, I was 10 weeks along.  They performed an ultrasound and I saw the baby -- I saw that at just 10 weeks, she looked human.  I had already detoxed off my pain medication and was still having severe morning sickness.  My boyfriend and I were on a break from our relationship.  So I made the follow up appointment for a couple days later to have the "procedure done."  

The day before, I was still convinced it was the thing to do.  On my way to the abortion clinic, I started to throw up, per the norm of my morning sickness.  I pulled the car over -- I was alone and I couldn't stop puking.  Since I was late for the appointment, I rescheduled for the following day.  The same thing happened; however, instead of feeling nothing, I looked at the ultrasound photo from three days prior, saw the little human, and just started to cry.  

I realized I had made so many “me” and “I” statements.  I am poor, living on V.A. disability.  I found a bunch of reasons to not have this baby.  But as I sat there, I realized I made a choice to have sex -- the baby did not ask to be here.  At that moment, I realized, “Who am I to pick which of my kids lives and which one dies?”  It wasn't as simple as a “procedure,” and that was the thing -- I was going to kill a baby.  The baby has a heartbeat, a face, fingers and toes.  

That day, I turned around went back home and prayed.  I had a “come to Jesus meeting,” as I like to say.  I felt bad that I even considered killing my child, and I asked for forgiveness.  I told the baby’s father I couldn't do it, and he said he was glad I didn't – that he thanks God I did not!  We haven’t been a couple long, but we decided no matter what happens with us, we will be there for our daughter.  I had even considered adoption if I felt I couldn't care for her myself.

This pregnancy wasn’t easy -- in fact, my baby girl was diagnosed in utero with a rare heart condition -- a right-sided aorta with a vascular ring, and also bladder issues.  I had trouble walking and had to use a wheelchair and walker.  My nausea almost had me hospitalized and lasted 24 weeks.  I ended up with placenta previa, as well as placenta abrupta at 20 weeks, which healed itself.  I had to see a neonatal specialist, as well as a regular doctor.  I needed to have a c-section two weeks early because of my pain.  I have a pubic plate and bilateral SI joint fusion, so I could not push a baby out.  A pelvis specialist was on call while I was in the operating room during delivery because of my hardware and nerve damage.

I am sharing my story because if I can complete a pregnancy being in pain, having disabilities and not being super-rich, anyone can.  I am so glad I continued my pregnancy!  There is no way I would have been able to forgive myself if I had gone through with the abortion.  Now I have my beautiful daughter -- Alexia Grace, born August 27th.  I know I am a good mom, and every child deserves a chance at life!

BIO:  Lauren Lee is a freelance photographer in Anchorage, Alaska:  Photography by Lauren Lee, specializing in maternity and baby photos, and also enjoys doing make-up artistry.  She's now a pro-life blogger with http://www.savethe1.com, addressing the "hard cases" of poor in utero diagnoses.